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Were you 37 and single but ended up with a family?

51 replies

SingleGalq · 16/02/2019 19:07

If so, how? Where did you meet?

OP posts:
pallisers · 16/02/2019 19:08

No but my best friend was. She met him in a pub - introduced by someone. She was married with a baby at the age of 41.

CatsMother66 · 16/02/2019 19:12

Yes. Met DH through a friend. Married at 39, DS at 41.

Ella1980 · 16/02/2019 19:12

I met my now fiance at 36. If it wasn't for money being an issue we'd have definitely been trying for a baby together by now and no reason why it couldn't have happened. I'm 38 now.

Ella1980 · 16/02/2019 19:13

OLD 😊

Boxlikeahare · 16/02/2019 19:14

36, not 37 but yes, literally bumped in to him in a coffee shop, it was all a bit Bridget Jones to be honest, he bought me a cake to apologise for the mess (just divorcing 15 years later which is probably not what you want to hear).

OreliaRoc · 16/02/2019 19:14

Not quite 37 but met my husband when I was almost 36 on Tinder, we got married when I was 37 and my daughter was born when I was 38. It is definitely possible but I did have to be brave and actively look for him. My natural preference for sitting at home on the sofa watching rubbish telly and eating chocolate wouldn't have got me where I am now (I don't mean that you necessarily do that OP!)

SingleGalq · 16/02/2019 19:16

Orelia that’s exactly what I have started doing. I’ve given up.

I feel like I’m not actually meant to meet anyone. Not matter who I meet there’s never that spark, even if I wait for it and give it a few dates. I’ve taken all advice, including not looking for it (which is hard if it’s somethjnf you want!)

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namechangedforanon · 16/02/2019 19:16

Yes my cousin was , met a really nice chap that was an old old friend of her brother - I'm going to their babies christening tomorrow

MrsTerryPratcett · 16/02/2019 19:16

35 I met DH. In a bar. Grin

Married with a DD now.

ChippyMinton · 16/02/2019 19:17

35 and managed to fit in 3 DC and a wedding before I hit 40. Met at work.

SingleGalq · 16/02/2019 19:17

Boxlike - I would rather have had a marriage and kids and the marriage end than no marriage at all. I hope that doesn’t sound crass as I can’t imagjne it was nice to go through.

Just wish I had a story and a tale to tell. My life is empty of any relationship of significance at all.

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Myusernameismud · 16/02/2019 19:20

DH was 40 when we met, although I was only 28. We're now happily married, no more babies out of choice but I already had 2 DC from a previous relationship. Had they been younger, we probably would have added another baby or two.

Myusernameismud · 16/02/2019 19:20

Oh and he is the brother of one of the mums I knew from DCs school.

SirVixofVixHall · 16/02/2019 19:22

Well a close friend met his wife online dating. Both in their late forties, now in their fifties. No children as it was too late, but happily married.
I had both my babies in my forties, after getting married at 39.

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eagleray · 16/02/2019 19:32

Yes. 38 actually

Kids at 41 and 44

Met online. I 'shopped' a little bit out of my area geographically as had been doing OLD for years on and off and felt stuck in a rut with the same faces popping up. I think I also stopped caring whether anyone likes me or not!

It's hard. I still don't know what I could have done differently in my 30s. I certainly didn't 'delay' motherhood, but I'm thankful things worked out for me although DP can be a bit of a nobber at times

MissConductUS · 16/02/2019 19:33

I met DH on OLD when I was 36, got married and had kids at 39 and 41. It was a effort on my part to find someone. I asked him out after seeing his profile on match.com. 🙅

We're happily married 21 years now and our DS is in his first year at uni. He's a lovely father and husband.

Fortune favors the bold.

westendgirl780 · 16/02/2019 20:07

Met on tinder a couple of weeks before my 36th birthday, I’m now 40 - married, one toddler and baby 2 on the way. But yes you need to keep at it even when it’s the last thing you feel like doing.

Eesha · 16/02/2019 20:13

Met online at 35, had two kids but separated by 40!

Lozzerbmc · 16/02/2019 20:19

Met DP at 36 had DS at 38 who is now 11. We are still together albeit with a few issues! We met via OLD

Sexnotgender · 16/02/2019 20:22

Not quite 37 but close...

Met at 34
Married at 35
Just gave birth to our son 2 weeks ago at 36.

Hadalifeonce · 16/02/2019 20:29

40 and not looking, went to a friend's party met DH. Married 10 months later, Ds born at 42, DD born at 44. 20 years later still together

movinonup · 16/02/2019 20:31

I separated from first husband at 35, met my lovely partner when just turned 37. We are getting married this year (as soon as my divorce is through) and hope to have a baby together.

movinonup · 16/02/2019 20:33

Posted to soon ......we met in a bar and had a ONS.....bumped into each other in the street six months later and have spent every day together since.

mogtheexcellent · 16/02/2019 20:35

Keeping my friend company when she wanted to go speed dating. Married at 39. Baby at 42.

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