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Were you 37 and single but ended up with a family?

51 replies

SingleGalq · 16/02/2019 19:07

If so, how? Where did you meet?

OP posts:
MaryShelley1818 · 16/02/2019 20:48

Met up with highschool sweetheart (through FB) at 38, had DS at 39, married at 40 and will hopefully have another baby at 41 as ttc atm.

Uggywuggy · 17/02/2019 00:39

Met DH at 38 out at a bar, DC1 by 39, married at 40 and DC2 on way now at 41.

Harriedharriet · 17/02/2019 00:49

met DH at 40.
Married at 41.
3 DC later....

Had decided late 30s to put all the ideas of marriage and babies out of my mind and accept the inevitable!
Best thing I ever did!

Harriedharriet · 17/02/2019 00:50

PS: With the inevitable ups and downs of a marriage. I would not change it though......

on a good day :)))

MissBPotter · 17/02/2019 00:53

Good friend was single 37, married and 1st baby at 38, 2nd aged 40. Unfortunately turns out her dh is an utter twat but she has two lovely boys. I hope she is able to get rid of dh but not the dc soon.

OneTitWonder · 17/02/2019 01:06

Met my DH via online dating, I was 36, he was 38. Married a year later, DS born a year after that, we’ve now been married 12 years and DS is almost 11yo.

Afriend pushed me to try online dating and I am forever grateful to her.

allfurcoatnoknickers · 17/02/2019 01:26

My mum met my dad at 37, married at 39, had me at 43! They met in a bar, he was the barman, and they got chatting while she was waiting for her friend to arrive. She moved in with him less than a month later because he had a really nice flat with a washing machine and she hated her flatmate Grin

Kirstie92 · 17/02/2019 06:01

Met him when I was 20 when he was 32, pregnant and married at 21, first born at 22, and 2nd born when I was 26. Now I'm pregnant with my 3rd.
Honestly, I absolutely LOVE being pregnant.

thinkingcapon · 17/02/2019 06:25

Yes. Online. Last time I was going to try it as was so fucking soul destroying

Turned out to be the one. Pregnant after a year x

immortalmarble · 17/02/2019 06:29

I’m 38 and have been single since I was late teens! I think I’ve got out of the habit!

Lauren83 · 17/02/2019 06:35

I was at 33 and DP 38, met on Tinder and fast forward 3 years and have a DS who is 1 and another on the way

user1494050295 · 17/02/2019 07:13

37 met partner through our sport and had a child at 40

brookshelley · 17/02/2019 07:14

My colleague met her DH through work, married at 39 baby at 40.

SingleGalq · 17/02/2019 10:45

Such nice posts to read, thank you. It gives me some hope that not all is lost. never thought it would be so hard to meet the right one!

OP posts:
Quiettiger · 17/02/2019 10:57

Yes, met DH 10 years ago next month, I was 37, he was 42.

DD4 is currently sat on the sofa stuffing toast and watching Paw Patrol!

Jux · 17/02/2019 15:47

At age 38, ganged up on by friends,who dragged me unwillingly to a pub so they could push ths bloke onto me because they thought we'd get on. I knew nothing about it, except they wanted to go to that pub that night, while I would have preferred to go another time. Married him quite soon after meeting himand baby born when I was 41. She's 19 now.

mcmooberry · 17/02/2019 20:48

Yes, ended a 13 year relationship at 36, met DH at 37, married at 38 and 3 children (2nd twins) at 39 and 42.

MissCharleyP · 17/02/2019 21:19

Met at work, went on first date 3 days before my 36th birthday. Married in 2017, no DC as he had cancer treatment 10 years before. Still very, very happy.

MissConductUS · 18/02/2019 00:24

I forgot to mention that in addition to DS who just started uni, we have a DD17 who is looking at universities now. We're touring a few in upstate NY and Massachusetts soon.

OLD was hard work. Most of the men on OLD are rubbish in one way or another by the time they're in their mid 30's or later. But there are some good ones. My DH was recently divorced through no fault of his own, as was I when we met. But you do have weed through to find them. Some of my friends were scandalized that I asked him out. I point out to them that it worked out quite well.

Good luck OP.

Camsie30 · 18/02/2019 00:34

I was 36 and single, decided to have a baby by myself using an anonymous sperm donor. On Tuesday, I gave birth to my second child. I'm 41 and have created my perfect little family, I couldn't be happier.

MyDisposableUsername · 18/02/2019 00:38

MissBPotter So curious about the couple you describe... I have a lovely SIL whose age, relationship timeline and two little boys' ages/gap would fit your description exactly, and my BIL (DH's brother) is an utter twat Grin

NorthEndGal · 18/02/2019 00:49

Not me, but my friend. She met him through church , he was a single father, they are now about ten years in and happily married

MissBPotter · 18/02/2019 18:56

MyDisposableUsername my friend’s dh doesn’t have a brother, so can’t be the same one. Seems there’s a few like that out there Sad

SteelRiver · 18/02/2019 19:38

I started seeing my now husband at age 37. We'd met a couple of years earlier at work. Neither of us wanted (more, in his case) kids, but I have 2 fabulous step-kids I adore.

Never thought I could be so happy. It's wonderful.

march19 · 18/02/2019 19:51

I got together with my partner aged 35 although I had known him for years beforehand. I am now 37 and we are expecting a baby in three weeks time. I didn't feel like I would ever meet anyone like him but we are very happy.