POF

[brook1ands]

Hoping someone can help. Been talking for a week or so with a guy on Plenty of Fish. We are getting on really well and have now started swapping sexy messages and sexy photos on kik messenger. I am now thinking he is an imposter and is a fake profile and I am worried about the photos we have swapped. Can anyone help?

Lesson to be learned is not to do this especially with a stranger. It's a wake up call for the unfortunate world of online.

brook1ands there is nothing you can do about it now, and worrying about things you have no control over is a waste of energy. Acknowledge that you feel used and a bit daft, decide that you won't make the same mistakes again, and then forget about this utter shithead. You are understandably dwelling on this episode but I think tbh it's getting a bit disproportionate. I think you really need to read back over what everyone has said to you and think about what you want to do next, not on what has already been done.

I just feel used. We exchanged intimate pictures and videos as well

Well yes, we know that. But it's done now so all you can control is how you move forward. He won't be giving you a second thought, so you shouldn't be dwelling so heavily on the bellend.

Thank you so much

Speaking from experience there are legions of men out there who will do this. My advice to you is this - and I speak from experience here - learn to love you first. You don't need a man, you can do anything a man can do. Focus on losing some weight, get a haircut, some new clothes and spend some time (for me it took a year) getting to know yourself and love you again. It'll happen when it happens but if you rush it then it won't work. Get a hobby, spend time with friends, family and forget a man for the time being. Onwards and upwards

I assume you are 18 or over. And he’s not blackmailing you with these pictures or threatening to share them? If so there is no need to go to the police.

It’s a lesson learned. Please read ‘the rules’ of the dating thread and don’t trust a stranger with intimate photos. My ex husband threatened to share photos, so I wouldn’t trust anyone!!

As my mum would say "Never get yer fanny out on the internet, pet".

It's in the past now OP. Delete your POF account and move on. Some men are shit, but there are a few good ones out there.

I wouldnt worry about it whats done is done ,if he shares pics etc then that is a police matter revenge porn etc can get jail time but im sure he wont take it that far ,im sure many women have sent him pic's etc.just move on and try to forget it ,i know it will be hard but u will get over it x

You say you exchanged intimate photos? Do you have some of him? Is his face in any of them? If so hold on to them. If he threatens releasing them well I know what I would threaten to do and bluff it out and see the police. Unless he’s sharing them there’s nothing much you can do (and like previous posters here I’m assuming you’re over 18)

You sound really young OP. Are you? Please learn from this. Why oh why would you show such little self respect as to send a man you don't know intimate photos over the internet. I'm sorry to sound harsh but you really need to wise up fast and learn from this.

After a week of chatting you should be arranging a physical date and if they don't want it then you know they're dodgy.

OP we all have made on line dating mistakes. So for the future, no to endless chatting, particularly sexy talk or pics if you are after a relationship. Believe me I learnt that the hard way.
Only chat for a bit then meet. So many time wasters!
It will pass but on line dating is tough. I am happy I did it as I met DH but oh boy the dramas and upset before then.
Hugs OP you deserve better

Hi OP, I'm so sorry you feel used. Try to see this as a learning curve. I've sent pics and videos to strangers from POF/Tinder a few times but I knew what I was doing and had no intention of having a relationship with these men. When it stopped being fun for me, I block them. I've never, ever included my face in any of them.
This guy will be and will have been doing this with many women, so try not to worry too much about it and just move on. Be careful with online dating, its full of weirdos and pervs.
For future reference, any guy who is full on really quickly is a massive red flag.

I am still upset - I miss him so much and he made me feel so special

I feel used and stupid. I genuinely thought he wanted a relationship with me. He was the first guy to treat me well in ages and made me feel sexy and desireable again. I thought I had found my soul mate

^^ this is far far too early to be talking about relationships and soulmates if you've only been talking to him for a couple of weeks. Don't ever send strangers rude photos with your face on them, it's too

... sorry, accidentally pressed send before I finished.

It's too dangerous to send photos like that where you could be identified. He could post them on the internet, send them to your family/friends on social media etc.

Yes but that would be a criminal offence and illegal

You sound young OP. It is done now. No point obsessing. Block him and move on. He wasn't your soul-mate and you miss the attention, but not the person as he wasn't real, if you see what I mean.
You've learned a valuable life lesson to be wary of getting involved with people on the internet.
I second the PP who said to get out and do things you enjoy - walking, gym, classes, evening classes whatever. Get active and concentrate on yourself and improving your happiness. That doesn't come from a man.

I am still upset - I miss him so much and he made me feel so special

No, you miss the idea of him. He wasn't real. He's shown you that whatever he said to you was bullshit so you really need to stop obsessing over something that was never a thing.