"Breakup" text wording?

[LilQuim]

Hi lovelies. This is one in need of quick turnaround, as I need to address this tonight (Sunday).

Been seeing guy for a few months, but only meet up at his, shag, then I go home. We don't even see each other that regularly. It's 1 1/4hr drive for me each way. Basically, it's not what I want, but I've kind of said this before, then seen him again.

He's really lovely, and he's done nothing wrong, it's just not for me.

How do I word this? He sent me text with words to Adele's "Hello" earlier as I haven't texted him.

I was thinking "hey, sorry not been in touch. Been thinking about a lot of stuff & I guess I'm looking for a very different thing to you. I'm too old for a fuckbuddy."

Ughhhhhhh. Help!!

@DameIfYouDo exactly. I feel better now. I wasn't horrible, I just was feeling bad as he's a nice guy.

@Grandadwasthatyou thank you! I'm off to bed now so I can get my arse in gear early tomorrow.

Your DS is 20? He can handle his mum having a boyfriend in that case!

@NotANotMan you're right, it's just that I have the tiny box room & my son's room is just up the landing from it. Trust me, you can hear everything! He did come here the first time we went out for dinner.

Tbh I haven't had a relationship in 16 years, so my son has only met one ex. I kept everyone away, so I don't think I'm out of that way of thinking yet, because this is all new. If that makes sense. He did know I was seeing this guy & that I went on dates last year.

I love that he replied in emojis! The modern world of dating is so baffling to me. But that's a good result OP, well done - onwards and upwards!!

@NamedyChangedy thank you! I know, it was odd. But I'm glad I was honest & upfront. Been asked to go for a coffee with someone on Tuesday, but I'm not getting my hopes up. It's slim pickings out here at my age!!

Uh oh. I feel bad now. Should I have explained in first text? He's texted this:

Why don't you want to see me anymore XXX? I loved our time talking last time I saw you. Was it something I've done ? 😔

I just replied:

I’m sorry. No nothing you’ve done. I just honestly want something more. Like someone who’ll want to meet up on the weekend & go do shit. Or come to me. I feel like I’m a bit of a bootycall & I thought it might develop into what I want, but it’s not. We just want different things. X

That’s a good response. Just leave him to it now and don’t engage anymore.

@Equalityumber thank you. I thought it was best to be open & honest. He might reply that we can do those things, but it's been 6 months & I've put in enough time tbh.

You sound over it in your head which is good. You obviously had different views of the relationship you were having (as he's surprised) but equally I think it's a good call on your part as he's not giving you what you want and need. Your last reply was perfect.

If he replies then reply in s language he understands / Adele lyrics

“You could have had it aaa-aaa-all
Rolling in the Dee-ee-eep”

Your reply is perfect. I wouldn't engage further x

@RhubarbTea thank you so much. I do like him, but I'm 51 next week, I want more.

@EL2019 hahaha! Omg the fun we could have trading Adele lyrics!!!

@importantkath thank you so much. I won't. I've been honest, he's done nothing wrong, it's just been 6 months of that & I deserve what I want.