16 yr old DD dating 20 yr old???

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Is this okay and acceptable? I've met her boyfriend and he seems really genuine and nice but they age gap at this point worries me. I understand if they were older it would be a normal age gap so I'm conflicted. What are your opinions on this?

When I was 17 my "boy"friend was 39! We didn't last long, but 27 years later (last summer) we bumped into each other and had another fling.

Oh please. If a guy is an abuser he will abuse regardless of the persons' age. Consider how many people in their 20's and beyond are in abusive relationships, with or without an age gap. You could apply the same logic to any man of any age who has a partner younger than him that he's only interested because of control etc.

I have no regrets about the relationship I had with him. 20 years later and we had a date last week. Whereas my actual abuser I wouldn't want to be on the same road as him, never mind his company.

As I said further up, I was manipulated by a peer. Strange that. Last I heard of him was in the local paper several years later with regards to a horrendous crime he committed.