Hi. So, nervous post. I've been separated from my OH for two years. We were married for 20, but he was finally diagnosed with bipolar after 10 awful years and I simply couldn't do it any longer. We co-parent well, we have a dd with ASD and ds currently suffering very much with mental illness. Things are really tough. I'm pretty burnt out despite good family and friends and I'm aware I'm vulnerable to someone being kind to me.
So, have bumped into the brother of an old friend a couple of times recently (at funerals!) who I'd not really noticed before. Anyhow he was really kind and funny and I enjoyed spending time with him.
Killer is, he's married, so i should walk away. He and his wife live separate lives in the same house. Have done for many years. I know this is a red flag. Last time I was chatting to him and his sister she commented she hadn't seen [His wife] for ages. Anyhow I know this is potentially messy. I'm not an idiot.
So this guy wants to be a friend to me. He's offered to take me to a seminar day related to my ds' illness as its likely to be hard going.
I do trust him, I do generally have very good radar/instincts. His brother and sister are sound.
He says he knows it's complicated, but just wants to be friends as we don't really know each other very much. I enjoy spending time with him, he's warm and makes me laugh.
So.