Losing affection

[ferj]

Hi everyone,

My wife and I are going through a rough patch where we don't seem to agree on what our problem is.

From her side, she is unhappy with not getting enough affection. I have held my hands up to this, and openly admit my affection has dropped. When we talk about it, I explain examples where she has been dis-respectful, rude, lied & under values me, over years, and that these things have eaten away at my affection towards her.

She doesn't agree, saying I'm the issue, that I don't have enough affection to her, and that's the main issue.

Is it plausible, that my affection can reduce, if I have experienced dis-respect, under value, rudeness, lies - over a long period of time?

thank you /

Moon
You are great.
Send you a big hug

Resentment kills affection ime, and it sounds like you have good reason to be resentful. I couldn't stick someone who lies continually, I would have to end it. If you really want to stay married maybe counseling will help, perhaps it will give her some insight into her behaviour. Good luck.

Nobody can tell you how you feel. If you feel she was disrespectful etc that's enough for you to feel you can't trust her with your affection.
If you want to stay together you need to risk giving her affection and try to show her willingness to give her more of what she wants.
I know it's going to be hard but you can only change yourself.
Once you show a little more affection she may be willing to talk about her own behaviour.
Takes a bigger person to recognise past mistakes and will to rectify them.
Best of luck

Thank you everyone.
Thank you