My ex is not fit to be an organ donor

[WhatWouldLIfeBe]

Unless someone is happy to have inside them part of a rapist and wife beater. I don't know what is his drug regime but he may yet make compost.

I am beyond angry.

well he's your ex - do you have children with him?

Our children are not him. Nor are they me. They are who they are. I am doing everything I can to protect them and get them the help they need now and may need later on.

I’m sorry your post makes no sense and I’ve read it 3 times.
Do you need an organ donor?
You seem all over the place.
Have you seen a therapist for your feelings?

Having that much anger in you isn't good for you. Your ex doesn't care, it's you who suffers it. You need some help to let go (and/or report him to the police) otherwise he will continue to ruin your life beyond your relationship.

It's about time I was angry actually. All the relevant authorities know about him. I have very, very good reason to be very very angry. I. cannot go into detail here because of security reasons. I am venting. I apologise if it offends.

@WhatWouldLIfeBe
You’re not making sense. Simple. You have no idea how my life has been. And I have been in both those situations.
So I suggest you make a sensible post, asking for help, asking for answers and make it sensible and not all over the place.

But perhaps you just want to start some sad online fight with people you don’t jibe.

You know, you could actually get a lot of support and help if you went about it the right way. And having been a person who has suffered many things, I feel very sad for you that you sound so confused and angry.

Your post is confusing though. Whats the relevance of the organ donor though. Has he registered to be one or what

By all means vent theres plenty people who'll be happy to listen

What are you on about OP?

Are you on drugs or druni?

Drunk*

Is druni a new millennial drug I’ve not come across!?

I'm sorry you've been through trauma, but don't make light of people who need organ transplants.

Im guessing the ops ex is registered as an organ donor and op isnt happy about it 🤷‍♀️

Clearly OP is saying he's so rotten that his organs shouldn't be donated. He's not fit to even have his organs recycled. No part of him is worthy of a living body. Things along those lines.
He sounds awful, vent away if it's cathartic or ask advice/opinions if it could help.

My ex raped and abused me and abandoned our children. Quite frankly his only value on this earth would be as an organ donor. He's walking around breathing good air with lungs that someone else could make better use of.

There is lots of support available for survivors of rape and domestic abuse

It's fine to be angry at him if he was abusive to you OP. I just can't see what being an organ donor has to do with it. Surely that must be the least of your hurtful experiences?

Personally I don't think now is the time for tone policing. What are terrible thing to have happen OP, I hope you recover and you find freedom from all this as soon as possible.

Thank you Toomuchworking. I am just venting, not looking for advice. I've just paid a massive legal bill and it's only the start. My ex wishes me dead and is probably prepared to bankrupt himself in order to cause me harm. He has no interest in the children other that they are female and vulnerable. It's a control thing. One of them was learning physical violence against me. The other is getting her grades in gaslighting.

I'm sorry but I really don't care if I'm not making much sense. No, for the record I am not drunk and I am not on drugs. I am very very upset and angry.

I have a huge amount of real life support. In this particular issue is costing me ££££££££££££££ to show evidence of his behaviour, and I do not believe in the court system. I am told that I am doing all I can do to protect my children. I am co-operating with all involved and I am told that I am doing well under the circumstances.

I’m sorry you’re feeling so upset OP. It must be relief he is your ex. Don’t let anger eat you up — useless unless it can be constructively channelled

I don't think this has anything to do with literal organ donation. It's about how awful he is, even when dead.

What's happened OP? Apart from the obvious

I kinda get you OO. Vent away
It might help you if you name change and post anonymously (be careful not to give too many details) then you can really let it all out.
Could be cathartic...

If you're venting and coming across as angry with other posters , im not sure why you are writing on a forum.

Writing it down on paper would likely be just as , if not more therapeutic.

Sorry, cross posted. Unfortunately there little justice in this country unless you are wealthy as it’s made too expensive/difficult to obtain by ordinary people who need it most.
So frustrating to have to explain to someone that, yes, they have a remedy in law but that it is just not feasible for them to enforce it.
Glad you have support OP. Vent away!

Thank you for being kind. I can barely express how lovely it is to be free of him and how much better it feels that he is not allowed verbal contact with me or allowed in the former family home. I am still being triggered. Unfortunately it is a legal £££££kerching thing and not a support issue and it about my needing control and causing problems and I have no choice but to go to court.

Lots of really good things have happened since my ex finally left the building under the advice of the police. There has been a sea change in my life. I still have bad days. I again apologise for upsetting anyone. This is a bad day. I expect to feel better soon.