Meno - sex life

[Marybangle]

Briefly at 'that age', meno and hormones, for the past 6 months made it clear to DH of 21 years that I dont want to have sex. DH has been sleeping on the sofa due to me need the bed to myself for the past 2 months, he has to get up at 6 anyway for work and is out before I get up. Hes obviously not happy with the lack of intimacy and us not sleeping together. I just dont feel like sex anymore and dont want to be intimate but its killing the marriage. Anyone have any suggestions?

I feel guilty because about 5 years ago I made him make the decision between coming off antidepressants and our marriage, it killed his sex drive and I found it difficult to not feel wanted. He eventually came off them and it helped at the time, but now Im expecting him to put up with the lack of sex in the marriage after having made such a fuss when he was suffering with depression. I feel like a right cow :(

You will never feel intimacy if you keep pushing your husband away like this, as a menopausal woman I can fully understand the lack of libido, however, if you continue to have this physical divide between you it will be nigh on impossible to get things back once your hormones calm down. The menopause isn't forever, things change continually, but you seem to being using it as an excuse to not have any feelings or kindness to your spouse, when you cause pain to others by your selfish actions , especially when a visit to your gp to weigh up your options for medical help, you need to evaluate your marriage and decide if it is better to divorce than this sad life you are both living