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Husband erased his phone

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frankiesamson · 29/01/2019 15:41

A day after I had a conversation with my husband who is away for a few weeks, about how I feel he doesn't seem to miss me (which he of course denied), my husband texted me saying his iphone X erased itself.

I know enough about iPhone X to know that this has never happened to anyone in the past, so he'd be a first, out of millions of users.

I want to believe him, but my gut instinct doesn't know what to think. I know if I confront him about it, he'll just deny it so it's pointless.

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Itsagamerchanger · 29/01/2019 21:47

You’ll have more luck posting in relationships, more responses.
I’d be snooping on him before confronting him!

SuziQ10 · 29/01/2019 21:50

Erased itself. That's odd.
Suspicious.

Has he given you reason not trust him previously?

ilovewine · 29/01/2019 22:04

There is an erase data setting on the iPhone which erases the phone after a set number of failed passcode attempts. Mine is set to 5 (work phone) and the bloomin kids erase it all the time!! Very annoying. He may have had that set?

MoanaofMotunui · 29/01/2019 22:05

I've just had to reset my old iPhone to send it to Mazuma. I was sat next to my DP at the time and, as I pressed the reset button, a message flashed up on his iphone asking if he was sure he wanted to erase all his data etc- I've never seen this happen before and was really shocked, my DP said this apparently happens via Bluetooth if you're sat too close to someone resetting their iPhone. Luckily he read the pop-up and cancelled it with no harm done. Could your DP have been sat near someone resetting their phone?x

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frankiesamson · 30/01/2019 02:18

Couldn't find the relationship section! He was asleep when it reset itself apparently.

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frankiesamson · 30/01/2019 02:19

I don't think I could snoop on him since I don't know his phone password... and he's away at the moment for a few weeks...

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RelaxDontDoooIt · 30/01/2019 14:00

Go to talk, then “Body and Soul”. Relationships is in there

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frankiesamson · 30/01/2019 16:28

Yes but I can't move it myself, I'm not a moderator

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RelaxDontDoooIt · 30/01/2019 19:00

I was just letting you know for future reference

Tentomidnight · 30/01/2019 19:05

Suggest to him that he goes with you to an Apple store to ask about his faulty phone. His reaction will tell you all you need to know..

LIZS · 30/01/2019 19:09

Would it not be backed up on the icloud? Hmm

Karigan195 · 30/01/2019 19:09

So you don’t know his phone password and he’s nowhere near you right now? So what exactly is he supposed to gain by erasing his phone?

Can’t see any gain myself. There might be if he was home and you’re about to interrogate him but you aren’t.

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frankiesamson · 30/01/2019 19:59

@Tentomidnight good idea but sadly as I said he's away for a few weeks, and I doubt he'd be interested in doing that a few weeks after the fact.

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frankiesamson · 30/01/2019 20:01

@Karigan195 the potential gain could be to avoid explaining why there are missing messages on his phone from the time he went away for a few weeks- or why there are gaps in conversations, if I were ever to gain access to it.

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RivkaMumsnet · 30/01/2019 20:15

We'll move this to Relationships for you now OP.

Ginger153 · 30/01/2019 21:16

I'm not technically minded on this stuff but my last iPhone did delete all my contacts etc. all by itself! It was a nightmare. When I took it the apple shop they told me it sometimes happens when a phone hasn't been backed up and the OS updated recently enough.

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frankiesamson · 30/01/2019 22:05

Thanks- that wasn't an iPhone x though? Never heard of it happening with the X, and there seem to be no records online of it.

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LemonTT · 31/01/2019 00:27

If he was really going to all that bother wouldn’t he just say he reset it for technical reasons. It’s usually one of the solutions to the myriad of iPhone problems. I have been told to do it a few times.

Not sure why you think the X would be exempt from software glitches or indeed on going hardware problems that effected the last 9 versions.

Still don’t get why you think he did this unless you were asking to see his phone. In which case he is too stupid to hide am affair if this was his response.

wombat1a · 31/01/2019 00:36

iPhone SE here, had mine do this before. Luckily I could restore it via iTunes. I doubt the model of the iPhone is that important, more likely the iOS version is.

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frankiesamson · 31/01/2019 01:51

I had asked to see it before he went on his trip

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frankiesamson · 31/01/2019 01:52

I didn't say it's immune to glitches, I said there are no records of this particular glitch happening to anyone before, so he'd be a first. Apple keeps all their records online for everyone to see, just google it or use their forums.

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Skittlesandbeer · 31/01/2019 02:51

Tell him (once he gets back, so you can see his face) that you’ve found someone (friend of a friend) who is a whiz with iPhone X and has offered to reinstate his lost profile/data. Tell him you’ll ferry it over, just leave it with you, happy to help.

I bet you’ll be able to tell a lot from his response...

Hadjab · 31/01/2019 07:05

OP, I get the distinct impression that a million posters could come on here and tell you it does happen, and that wouldn’t be enough - you seem to be determined to find him guilty of something.

Whothere · 31/01/2019 07:12

So what do you suspect him of?

Boysandbuses · 31/01/2019 08:27

It doesn happen because of the software. Not because of which model of phone.

It's entirely possi or it did happen. If you are suspicious you need to deal with this. However, this isn't proof of anything.