what would you do.dh snogged girl infront of me

[moljam]

sorry this may be long!-
this was 3 weeks ago.we were both drunk but i dont see that as an excuse.he claims he doesnt remember,i do.i was stood right near him. .shes 16 and has now taken to hanging round primary school when i pick my children up,which i hate.when it happened i said nothing,just walked away .when we got home we argued but were both drunk-i had sobered up alot after what i saw but still drunk.the next day we argued more,he claimed he has no memory of it but i dont believe him.also he said hes sorry,why be sorry if he doesnt know what happened?i left,taking all 3 children to my mums and said i wanted him to leave so i could return.its not just this 'thing' its lots of other stuff,this was final straw.after 3 nights i was supposed to return home next day to discuss what happens next but as i got in bed that night with 2 of my children i decided i couldnt do that to them and owed to them to atleast try.so thats what were doing.now this girl is hanging round again and its driving me mad.what would you do?

[nailpolish]

dump him

if he is snogging 16yr old hes got a screw loose

[moljam]

fiofio yes he is and actually does have a daughter older than her from previous relationship

[lulumama]

he has ishooos

serious ones

[expatinscotland]

Yeah, I think I'd dump him then. Daughter older than she is.

Taht's just the boak.

[Nbg]

Thats utterly revolting.

I'd contact the girls parents and tell them what shes doing and then have a serious discussion with your dh and decide what your going to do about your relationship. He doesnt seem to be taking this seriously at all.

And to blame it on drink is so lame.

[TootyFrooty]

Seriously clarty. Bleugh.

[Blandmum]

40 snogging a 16 year old? I'd rip him a new arse hole and ram his head up it!

[moljam]

but i seriously still dont know what to do.dont i owe it to the children to try to make it work or is that just silly?

[FireFaerie]

You poor soul!
She will annoy you because when you see her you see the hurt that your H caused you. She on the other hand probably doesnt have a clue and like others have said, has a crush.
Your H needs to get a grip... i hate to say this but i know of at least 3 blokes who have lied to their wives about 'not remembering' to get themselves out of a tight spot. Dont wear it. Is he showing signs of a mid life crisis? Just a thought.
I hope you can get this out of your head soon, wether you stay with him or not. Try not to stay with him just for the kids though, although a wonderful intention, it never works out.

[moljam]

nbg,the girls mum knows and threatened to 'beat up' a friend of mine!shes been married how ever many times and doesnt seem that bothered about mine.

[TootyFrooty]

He owes it to you not to snog school girls.

[frapachino]

I'd find myself a 16 year old boy and snog the face off him and see if I could forget it - I'm betting not


Seriously though this isn't that funny I'd seriously be questioning my dh's morals as all aspects of this are for one shocking and two sad in every meaning of the word.

Drink is never an excuse - would he of done the same if she was 13?

[moljam]

drink isnt my excuse,it was his.
fiofio what do you mean worried about me?

[Flower3554]

I think martianbishop has the best solution.

Seriously if this girl was a few months younger what would that make him

[moljam]

and i agree frapachino i cant think how youd forget.ive never been that pissed that i dont know what im doing or dont remeber something next day.

[moljam]

ll,i dont know.i suppose i was shocked.im not confrontational(is that a word) but the people she was with are.

[lulumama]

you need to work through all the problems, and find out what is going on in his head.....and he needs to acknowledge he just cannot behave liek this

[moljam]

fio i get your point.

[sugar34plum]

omg! im 34 with a 17 yeah old son and the thought of kissing one of his mates makes my skin crawl simply because this thread made me think it!!! Im sorry its happened but its sick she is 16 ffs! And im sorry no matter how drunk you do remember .If he could kiss her when drunk he can remember it! You walked away? I'd have killed him on the spot!


Martianbishop: PMSL

[frapachino]

I think the fact that she was 16 is too distracting - What would you of done if she had been the same age as you?

[Judy1234]

Move back in or you lose possession of your home etc. Then talk about it. Ignore the girl when she hangs around - she's only a child. Try not drinking for a month, both of you. Sounds like drink is the issue.

[ginnedupmummy]

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