Can people/men do this and still be very in love and committed to marrying someone?

[User190001]

Can people/men do this and still be very in love and committed to someone? Is it harmless banter or similar?

A and B are engaged. A has been messaging C saying he still finds C so attractive, he’s been thinking about sex with her, imagine if they had got together. Apparently when pushed A will say that thinks B is great and wouldn’t change anything about her and that you can never be sure someone is right but he’d be happy with B for the rest of his life. The messages to C intermittently continue. C has no feelings for A whatsoever. He’s marrying B in a few months.

Is this just some fun? Do most men do this? Historically as a person A, as far as I knew, has been totally straightforward and decent and honest. Surprised by it and now wondering if it’s just what people are like!

A is the reason divorce lawyers drive top of the range BMWs. B should dump him now and save herself a shed load of case and yeas of heartbreak.

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I'd be hugely worried that A is behaving like this before he's even married B.

I know lots of A's who have been married for years, and very easily compartmentalise their married life with B, and have varying degrees of flirtatious/lustful relationships with C's, D's etc.

In fact, I know couples where both A and B are happily married, but have a C or D floating about.

Difference is they already have a solid marriage behind them, and just need a bit of added fun.

If A is already looking for C, I don't think his marriage will last long.