About gaslighting list

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AIBU to ask you all to read this link: www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/reports/a25888787/rebecca-humphries-things-its-not-ok-to-hear-in-relationship/

It’s a list of examples of gaslighting by Rebecca Humphries, in collaboration with Women’s Aid. I don’t want this thread to descend into comments about her boyfriend’s affair - I’m just posting this as I really wish I’d read it aged 19. It would have saved me from a horrible relationship, so much heartache and a few years of mental health issues.

I’ve also seen a number of threads on here where the OP could really do with this information.

Please share with anyone you think could benefit from it!

I think being constantly called “insane” was the worst one for me - it had long lasting effects as I really did start to doubt my sanity and was constantly second guessing myself

If you report your own post to mn, they might consider making it sticky at the top of relationships section?

www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/reports/a25888787/rebecca-humphries-things-its-not-ok-to-hear-in-relationship/

Hi there

We're just moving this over to relationships for the OP.

Thanks MN.

Share away everyone, and feel free to vent about your own experiences.

I had no idea about any of this when it was happening to me - I’m determined to share with any future children so that they can avoid the same fate. (Most of my friend’s are married now).

Yep...very reminiscent of my last relationship, it's almost like a tick list. He pretty much subjected me to all of that whilst covering up his affair. The worst was calling me crazy, twisting things I had 'your actions have caused my reactions'.

I'm well rid of him now.

This really resonates with me and I put up with it because he was 'insecure' and I had to be 'sympathetic to how he was feeling'. You don't make anyone do anything or behave in a certain way - that's their choice.

I remember this one time having a huge argument when I asked him very calmly and kindly to please stop saying nasty things to me. After literally hours of remaining calm I was exhausted, frustrated and upset. I was then called insensitive and insane and was told that I made him shout. It felt like a game to him.

I was subjected to most of these regularly and it was a complete head fuck. I'm still really struggling 3 months later.