I think my husband has hacked my phone

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I think that my husband has hacked my phone. We are talking about getting divorced and I went to see my solicitor on Friday and he knew, plus one or two other things.

He said that someone had told him this information about me via text messages. However, once I'd given it some thought, I could reference this precise information from two recent chats in Messenger.

Also, on recently my phone has started playing up ...going blank ...and having trouble charging it. I can charge it and it suddenly runs out of power and goes off. I believe this can be a symptom of having spy software running in the background.

Anyone had experience with this or have any advice ?

@SpoonBlender You can jailbreak iOS devices and download apps from Cydia. Doing a factory reset will get rid of it (and everything else) though, it's like starting with a new phone: support.apple.com/en-gb/HT201274

I think you can even restore from backup (iTunes or iCloud, depending on how you back up) and it will keep it removed as there are checks on those.

But enable 2FA and change passwords before doing that!

@tharsheblows Fair point, OP hasn't said which iOS she's on, might be a jailbreakable version.

Doing that hard restore is a good plan. And yes, a reload-from-backup after the restore will not reload any jailbreak so makes for a completely safe iPhone.

The passwords things should be done first.

But what happens if his spidy senses are tingling?

How distressing. I hope you get this sorted and can move forwards with the divorce. Did he gather anything that could be difficult further down the line? Don’t say specifically what by the way, just in case x

"I'd definitely go to the Police first."

Would the police care that OP's husband was reading her messages? I think there's a lot to be done first, before going to the police.

Would also point out that every time a woman posts that she suspects her dh of being up to something, she's advised to try to access his phone. I've seen threads suggesting using his thumb while he sleeps, location services, even hiring private investigators. I'm not saying it's ok, or that op doesn't need support on this, but just mindful of the fact that there's a bigger picture.

GloomyMonday the OP said in a further post that shes seeing the police as he has bern violent to her.

Hope you're ok and safe OP. Do you have support irl?

It does sound like he’s got access to your messenger.
You can actually find out where it’s logged in under Security.

I have just tried to make an appointment with Apple to get some support and a message flagged up saying someone was using my Apple ID on a device in London ...we live in Devon*

This happens, mine says London and I’m Scotland

I've had a very similar problem op. My WhatsApp messages were being tampered with via a third party app on my iPad that was in my home. He was accessing my chats. He was changing names and deleting things and I didn't realise because I didn't realise he had access to my house. I couldn't prove it because it was all very covert but there is no other explanation. I did inform the police as his behaviour escalated and I now have a restraining order/non molestation order on him and he's in court in March.

It's not as far fetched as it's sounds op. And it's horrible invasive and scary.

If he knows your apple id / password he can create a clone so the messages you send appear on another phone. Equally if he knows your email password he can set up a duplicate account on anothet phone/pc etc. So change passwords 1st.

I've been exactly your situation.
My now ex husband had put a key logged on our pc and was reading all my messages. He read a message to my cousin saying I'd made an appointment to see a solicitor then said he knew I'd been because one of his work colleagues - who I had never met - saw me leaving.
Actually I believe what he's done to you is now illegal so he could get into trouble for being such a tosser. Good luck with the divorce!

My ex hid a phone in my car to track me!

Doidontimmm How did you find it?

the surveillance arms race is on!!

He slipped up & a very nice man at the garage next to my work found it for me!

Reported.

SPAM

@recall how's it been going?

ZOMBIE THREAD
SPAM reported!

We're closing this old thread as it keeps getting reactivated by dodgy spammers and the OP could probably do without this cropping up again.