I think my husband has hacked my phone

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I think that my husband has hacked my phone. We are talking about getting divorced and I went to see my solicitor on Friday and he knew, plus one or two other things.

He said that someone had told him this information about me via text messages. However, once I'd given it some thought, I could reference this precise information from two recent chats in Messenger.

Also, on recently my phone has started playing up ...going blank ...and having trouble charging it. I can charge it and it suddenly runs out of power and goes off. I believe this can be a symptom of having spy software running in the background.

Anyone had experience with this or have any advice ?

My exh did this. He didn't actually put anything on the phone though. He accessed it through my laptop that I had connected my phone to.

Tracked me using my Google account. I left him. He only stopped month later when I got a new phone, Google account etc.

When you go the Apple store see if they are able to log what they found on the phone before having any spyware removed or take the phone to the police first. Otherwise you may lose evidence that he has done this which you may need later down the line.

What blackcat is spot on.

Also if you have a linked cloud with Apple with him and you only change a password he may find this out. You need to get another phone, number and email accounts that are only linked to you.

There are spy apps that dint even show on phones.
Of you do find a spy app when going to apple get them to give you a report and contact the police. Use this in your divorce proceedings.

Ok most of these things are extreme. Possible but unlikely.

What he’s probably done is use your apple ID to log into your iMessage and Find My Phone. You can have messages sent to two or more devices. Go to a computer he definitely has no access to and change the password to your apple ID. Use a brand new and complicated password.

Then maybe do some of these other things, but most likely this is what he’s done.

Just a thought but if it's information from messenger he's aware of it could be that he's hacked your Facebook account and is logged into it on his phone? Someone I know me used this as a way to catch a cheating ex husband once. It's not that hard if you know someone really well.

Facebook security is pretty good so if you changed your password and set up additional validation it's bomb proof

I've just been looking at the Spyera.com site mentioned by a PP....that one is undetectable by any other software.

In your shoes I would:

• Use my work laptop or borrow someone else's phone or laptop to change the password to my email account (you'll need this to reset all remaining passwords)

• Change the password to your laptops (work and personal). Is there any chance he could have put any spy software on your personal laptop?

• Do you have any tablets/iPad? If so, think about those too.

• Get a new phone for personal use, if you're still in the same house make sure the PIN is something he won't guess

• Reset all my remaining passwords on my new phone

• Try one of the spy software finders on the old phone you keep for work (but as above it may not show up anyway but worth a try)

Do you use whatsapp? Have a look and see if whatsapp web is set up? You can scan another phone and get access to all the chats from it onto another phone. Go to three dots on top right and look and see if anything shows up in whatsapp web, it should just show you an instruction on how to set it up if it hasn't already been done.

. I feel for you OP. This must make you feel ill.

@isthismylifenow I was just about to suggest the same thing!

It’s such an intrusion. You must feel a bit sick.

Namechanger - snap!

I think it's more likely that he knows your password for Messenger, or you've left yourself logged on on another device.

Coercive control. You're classing DV, lies, manipulation, control, etc separately but they're all coercive control, which is domestic abuse. And a crime.

Www.freedomprogramme.co.uk

Be careful.

If you have an iPad at home, is there a chance it's linked to your phone number/apple id?
If so, Facebook messenger notifications pop up and can be read by whomever happens to be nearby unless you turn off the linked feature.
I've read many threads on here by people finding out about affairs via this unexpected link to a device!

The behaviour of your phone is suspect though.
Not sure if a pp has suggested this, although there was a thread in the last week about someone's PIL hacking their phone, but in setting, check out your battery usage and see what sits in the top few spots. It could be screen, location, Facebook etc, but if something is up there that you don't know or regularly use, investigate further and Google the app name.

Thank you ...all of you , haven't time to respond to each reply, I have school runs, work, trips to the Police, Solicitor's and Apple to sort out today plus a funeral

Your replies are so information and supportive...thank you

Could you leave your phone in the car when you're at the solicitors ?

Change all your passwords to social media and messenger.

I hope Apple and the police are helpful. I'm sure they will be. Mention it to your solicitor too.

Stay safe, love. Good luck.

If he knows your Apple login details, it's pretty easy to track. Also constant tracking would drain your battery. He might have hacked it but it'd be worth doing a few things also:

-- turn off location services and make sure "Share my location" if off: support.apple.com/en-gb/HT207092

-- enable two factor: support.apple.com/en-gb/HT204915 (If possible, I would use your cheap sim for this at least for the first time)

-- There is a list of devices logged into your account on your phone, disconnect any you don't recognise or that he has access to:
support.apple.com/en-gb/HT205064

-- AFTER you disconnect any unknown devices, change your password. Two factor authentication (ie a code to your phone) will be required.

I'm not an expert by any means but I'd start with this and keeping an eye on which devices were logged in to my account.

I would also check to see if the phone's been jailbroken I think there might be an app called "Cydia" but it could be hidden. There will be something somewhere though I guess I'd delete all the apps I wasn't using then go through the settings menu opening every single thing to see if there was something on there which hid icons. (I'd delete the apps I wasn't using because going through settings will be tedious)

It could be as simple as he has your Facebook or Google passwords - or either are logged in as you on one of his devices.

Did you know Google tracks your every move, if you're logged in, and it's viewable at Google Timelime.

Possible he's tracking your movements that way - or simple reading your messages - change your passwords asap.

Also you can generally enable two factor authentication and then log out from everywhere for Facebook and other things too:
www.facebook.com/settings?tab=security&section=sessions&view

(My Facebook locations think I'm in Bristol and I'm in London!)

Apple refused to help me when an ex-partner had hacked my phone, they said they couldn't touch it for liability reasons but offered to sell me a refurb.

I'd definitely go to the Police first.

Your phone has not been hacked. It's an iPhone, you can only install App Store apps, and there are no App Store spyware apps. End of.

The only way he's got your details are through using your Messenger (ie facebook) or AppleID accounts, not through your handset itself. No need for a new one.

Change your passwords for your AppleID, Facebook, and any other messaging services. Enable "two factor authentication", which will flag up a warning whenever you (or more importantly someone else) log into the account from a new device or web browser.

Check on Facebook for devices that have logged in (and delete bad ones after taking a screenshot):
www.facebook.com/settings?tab=security&section=sessions&view
Click "log out of all sessions" to punt anyone else from the account so they'll need the new password.

Check on iCloud for devices that have logged in (screenshot and delete bad ones):
www.icloud.com/#settings

Good luck with getting away from the bastard.