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DH been offered a secondment abroad

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Cabbagesoupsucks · 18/01/2019 11:41

DH has been offered a 6 month secondment to another country for work. It's in Asia so not the shortest flight. We have 2 DC age 5&7 and I'm just not sure what to say. He is excited. I should support that. But at the same time I'm worried how it will impact us as a family, him not being here. We haven't yet found out what the company will pay for e.g. our flights to visit him, his flights home etc.
He hasn't said yes yet and wants to find out a bit more info.

Wwyd

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Rainatnight · 18/01/2019 18:13

Good for you.

TheBigBangRocks · 18/01/2019 18:19

If he would support you with the same opportunity and you could still do your job then I'd have no issue with it. It's only six months and the children are school age.

MrsGrindah · 18/01/2019 18:50

I’m hardly being dramatic.Just saying it’s a lot to adjust to.

beansontoastfortea · 18/01/2019 19:06

Personally I wouldn't be able to support my DH if he were to go away for 6 months... children are a joint commitment

LadyLapsang · 18/01/2019 19:35

DH has been away away a number of times during our marriage for up to four months, initially pre Skype and when phone calls were very expensive, therefore rationed to important things like school applications. He just came home and told me he was going the following week, a colleague 's wife wasn't coping on her own so he had to return to the UK (he was later made redundant). My position was that I worked pt then so was used to doing the lion's share at home, nursery take / collect, shopping, cooking etc. So I was pretty self reliant. Did get some great travel (at our own expense) at the end.

Cabbagesoupsucks · 18/01/2019 20:14

I'm used to doing the lions share of the housework and the kids. He goes away for a few days or a week at a time several times across the year. I don't like it when he is away but it's generally fine.

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