I've NC for this. Been a long-time poster but don't want to be outed.
Yesterday my DP was really quiet all day. He's self employed and works at home, I work in an office 9-5 (yawn!). When I got home, he confronted me with a letter from the mobile phone company, which he claims he opened as he 'assumed' it was for him.
Basically I changed accounts and cancelled my direct debit, resulting in missing the payments. I paid online last week, just thinking the whole amount would be included. Turns out only the airtime bill was, not the device plan, hence the letter telling me to pay it ASAP. For what it's worth, it was £26.
I called them up and paid it, but was made to put the phone on speaker so he could hear the conversation.
DP then started saying how I needed to change my address to my mum's, because he wasn't having these letters, threatening to take HIS house, at HIS address (£26 ffs!).
He owns the house outright, no mortgage. I've lived there nearly 6 years, pay the bills and food. My bank and phone contract are registered there, obviously, and I am on the electoral roll at the address.
He's always been a bit funny, but this has almost switched a light on for me; the last few months he's checked very regularly I've been on my pill, asked me several times to confirm I'd have a termination if I became pregnant, and started using WhatsApp (super unusual as he hates all of that, I don't have it). We've DTD perhaps twice in the last four months, instead he'll ask me to 'service' him.
This to me now is like a massive red flag. I don't have access to anything, his phone/computer etc., so I can't see if anything is up.
Any advice out there? Seriously starting to think he's up to something..