A couple of months ago, dh and I nearly split up due to his unreasonable behaviour (he admitted it too). Very controlling and judgmental and punishing. Things have been better recently but he's now moved to a different job within the same organisation and he's becoming a nightmare again. This has been the pattern for years - he has job stress, everything at home goes pear shaped. Two days ago, I took dd for a kidney scan and was really worried about it - she has history of constipation and urine infections. She then had her first haircut and taster afternoon at her new school. Big day for all. Scan was fine and I left message on his phone to let him know. At lunch time, he arrived home and I said to hime "do you notice anything different about dd?" He snapped back, "just tell me" and was in a mood so I just ignored him and he left. He got home and still didn't ask about the day so I asked him what was going on at lunch time. He said that he was in the middle of his working day and couldn't talk to me at all - not for a second and I was unreasonable to expect a reasonable two minute exchange with him. He's now really stressed and flipped out at me and screamed at me within an inch of my face. I ran away upstairs and next morning I thought he would apologise - no he wouldn't - said I deserved it for nagging him. He's now said I don't give him support and I am to leave him alone and the only way I can help him is to do what he asks me to do. I asked him what he meant by this and he said he didn't know. It's basically back to the same old crap when he gets stressed at work I become a single parent again and have my very small needs ignored until he snaps out of it - which has taken years before.
Am I not being supportive enough maybe and is it reasonable for him to back off from his family like this?
Please help - really confused.