Punched, bleeding nose 5 hours on, should I go A&E?

[123qw]

Ok so don't really know exactly where to start...OH punched me in the face earlier on while I had LO in my hand.

LO fell of sofa OH came running picked LO up , I took LO off him and was comforting LO. He then clenched his fists and started getting angry, i said why are you clenching your fist move away from me please, i gave LO and told him to wash his face to cool him down, he took him and decides to throw everything that was in the storage draws on the floor, threw washing too, i followed behind and asked why he felt the need to throw everything on the floor on purpose, i told him to give me LO but he kept moving away from me and not giving me LO blaming me for LO falling even though he left LO there and never told me. He eventually gave me LO and continued to rant, he then punched me in the face while I was holding LO in my arm. I screamed at the initial pain then cried there was blood all over. I started to feel light headed and had no choice but to give him LO and lower myself to the floor as I could fèel my body going numb. I lay curled up on the floor in my own blood for what felt like ages but was about 20 mins. While I was on the floor I could hear him talking to LO asking him if he felt ok from the fall. I managed to eventually get up and go to LO. LO was ok but kept staring at all the blood on my face. OH kept saying your scaring LO go and clean your self up. I said no LO needs to see what you have done to me....

The last few months have been really bad each time it gets worse though. LO is feeling fine from the fall ive been keeping a very close eye. My face on the other hand really hurts, my nose is still very sore and still bleading. I don't really want to go hospital to get it checked as I'm scared they'll asked questions, so I'm thinking of making an appointment at GP, will they ask me what happened? I'm scared that they will put it down on file. My ultimate fear is that they will take LO away from me

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3459815-Are-we-being-targeted

you posted this a few weeks back, maybe your oh wasnt bothered because its him thats been doing it? you say you dont feel safe in your own home yet you are not safe as your partner is violent.

I agree with @whatsthepointthen ...I wouldn't be surprised if it was him doing that to your car.

Are you ok OP?

Morning 123. How are you this morning?

You need to think about your child. It is your choice to stay but your baby does not have a choice in this. You may think he is only a baby but they take in a lot more than what you realise and you and your partner are severely effecting his development.

If your not got the courage to leave for yourself, do it for your innocent son. Go to the doctors and tell them the truth. End this today.

Your OH will do this again.

Your child does NOT need to see what he has done to you, not ever. It will cause lifelong trauma. But the way to ensure that that does not happen is not to put up with being punched in the face and hiding it, but to leave your dangerous and violent partner.

Call the domestic violence number for your local police. They will be experienced and kind.

Tell them you are hurt and you need to seek medical help.

Then go to A&E or your GP whichever you think best.

What he did was shocking and dangerous. Falling off the sofa is a minor event, being close to a full on adult punch with the possibility of getting hit or being involved in a sudden fall to the floor from height, and the terror and psychological damage is not minor.

Please look after yourself and your little child and seek help.

Good luck, OP.

Your LO could end up losing you - he is escalating and it could end up very badly.

The only way reporting could mean you lose your child is if you stay with him

Put your child first this is no way to live for them

The way I see it, it is your absolute duty to report this and protect your child from this abusive relationship. There's no other option, really.

Op what you should fear most is your LO losing you through the actions of this violent man

He attacked you while holding dc therefore he put that child at risk too.
A child Witnessing physical abuse is child abuse this man is abusing both of you.

SS will want you to protect yourself and dc from all acts of violence and further abuse.

Get yourself medically checked out as nose could be broken and any other facial injurys.
Log this man's abuse and protect yourself and LO
Be the parent to your LO this violent man is incapable of being

From someone who grew up in a violent home

Hi @123qw, how's it all going?

You need the hospital.
You need the police.
You need women's aid.
And you need to leave.

Nobody will take your child off of you if you tell them you are being abused and want to leave. They may well take him off of you if you lie and cover up for your husband.

This will damage your child, that he punched you while holding your son, you could have dropped him and he would have been hurt. This man doesn't care for either of you and you need to take action while you are still alive and able to keep your son safe from him.

OMG the level of violence is truly shocking, I hope to God you have got away, you cannot carry on in this environment, if not for yourself but for your child, you wanted the child to see your bloodied face, that's not normal OP!

Please seek help and support from your family and friends, the man is an absolute nut case.

WTFIsAGleepglorp
I am sure you mean well, but don’t tag an OP who is being abused - if she hasn’t turned off her notifications and her abuser is checking her emails (which is quite likely), he instantly has access to her MN username and anything she has said here to get help can get twisted against her. It removes a potential support network, as even if she changes her user name, the abuser still knows where she goes online and can monitor more easily.

OP, I hope that the fact you have not replied since last night means you are getting real life support to escape the danger.

He is cold and dangerous. You are in serious danger and need both hospital and the police.

By extension your LO is in a horrific situation and to be perfectly honest if things stay as they are, SS should remove your child. I’m sorry but that is the truth. You even said you wanted a small child to see your beaten face to try and get at your DH. Understandable you were lashing out at him, so incredibly understandable, but you used your baby to do that. It’s incredibly wrong and shows a level of dangerous behaviour and thinking in your child’s home right now.

This is not your fault. But you can’t be a good mum staying with this man. And your child doesn’t have a hope if you do either.

Please reach out for help. You need it before both (you and baby, that bastard can hang) your lives are ruined, or you end up dead.

Thinking of you OP, please let us know how you and LO are. Routing for you both to find the safety and peace you both deserve.

Sorry.

Please please get yourself and your baby away from this man. Women’s aid will help, gp, health visitor or social services will help. Police will make sure you’re safe. You don’t want your baby to think that behaviour is normal or god forbid your partner one day targets lo.

I'm so sorry to hear what has happened, to you and to your LO. Witnessing domestic abuse and violence causes tremendous harm to children, at any age, and stays with them their whole life.

GPs are used to this kind of situation. But A&E sounds like where you should be with that amount of bleeding. No-one can force you to disclose what really happened if you don't want to say. But if you do say the truth, neither will action be forced upon you.

The only time your LO would be at risk of being taken away is if you were given by social services a condition to leave your abusive partner or lose your child. Things would have to be at a very serious point for this to happen. You are a long way from this at the moment.

You are probably at the beginning of a journey that many more of us than you can believe have been on, where you are suffering but terrified to tell anyone. You feel ashamed, confused, and blame yourself while at the same time knowing that it is wrong and unfair. Once you find the courage to speak to someone it becomes easier, No-one will push you to make decisions until you are ready, but help is out there.

Domestic abuse helplines are a good starting point, just to start to talk through your situation. You won't have to give any personal details.
Is there anyone in your family you could confide in? In my experience, family are often more aware than you think and will bend over backwards to help you when you need it.