Is this a red flag?

[Houseonahill]

Hello sorry if this is a silly question but I've had a few bad/abusive relationships in the past and I try and be ultra careful now so don't know if I'm just making a mountain out of a mole hill....

So I've been seeing a guy for a few weeks, nothing serious just one date and texting/phone calls everyday, he seems very nice and respectful but one thing that is bothering me is he keeps calling me not my name but similar so for example if my name was Danni he keeps calling me Annie, I have said to him twice you do know my name is Danni and not Annie don't you and both times he has said "yeah but I like Annie better"

Is that a red flag? It seems weird to me tbh I don't mind the name and I'm not very precious about what people call me (annoying long name with lots of abbreviations) but it seems odd to keep calling someone the wrong name because you prefer it especially after they have commented on it?

Thanks in advance

He sounds nuts. I would write him a text, dumping him, but calling him by the wrong name.

Calling you by the wrong name, deliberately, is very disrespectful.

I think that's weird, lazy and shows he's not paying any attention

That’s weird. I’d not be having any more dates with him.

Dump.

He's testing your boundaries and seeing what you'll accept. Fuck that, he doesn't get to change your name.

MASSIVE RED FLAG. Not only is this incredibly rude, it is a very clear warning sign of controlling behaviours that have yet to show themselves. He is CLEARLY showing that he has no respect for your feelings.

Op, you have a history of terrible relationships. Don't make this mistake again. This man is a complete twat.

Have you done the Freedom Programme, OP?

Yeah I think that's weird I'd probably give this one a swerve

Fucking RUN!

Oh I'm glad I asked now! I felt really silly like it was just one of those things and I needed to get over it. Dating is so hard

Nope, your name is core identity stuff. There's a reason it's an embarrassing social gaffe to forget people's names or say them wrong.

At best he's a very fucking weird. No ta!!

Controlling and rude. My way or the highway type of person!

Seeing each other a few weeks but only one date? He’s calling you by the wrong name because he likes that better?! Bin. Next!

May I suggest (before you bin him off!) that if you have any interaction - text, phone, face to face you use a similar name to his (at least several times) and see how he likes it.

It shows a total disregard for you, or he has early stages of dementia- you choose.

Maybe he ill-advisedly thinks he's being funny and cute? It is a red flag anyway, because it's annoying even if he's not narcissistically trying to erase your identity.

OP, anything you find remotely "off" is not acceptable.

This twat does not get to change your name because he "likes it better." Who the hell does he think he is?

May I suggest (before you bin him off!) that if you have any interaction - text, phone, face to face you use a similar name to his (at least several times) and see how he likes it
I couldn't be added with game playing. Just get rid of the disrespectful shit.

Meant arsed.my Samsung censors me more than my mother!

Dating is not hard if you stop first and do the Freedom Programme and a lot of work on your boundaries and self-esteem because most people with a modicum of self-esteem would have told this guy to go fuck himself. 'I like Annie better'. 'Then go find one to date, you weirdo.' And that would be the end.

I wouldn't bother breaking up with this dicksmack, but if you're so inclined than a simple, 'I'm worth someone who will at least use my real name. I'm off. Bye.' and then block.

Strange take on it: but have you considered her may have a stammer/stutter? My brother suffered in silence with this for years and used to avoid certain names, etc. Would def call him the wrong name too, see how he likes it!

Controlling! Change his name, see how he likes it. Tell him you prefer "prick!"

Definitely very odd - defo red flag

What a weirdo I'd say if that's what he's like just now when you're at the start of a relationship god knows what he'd be like later on

Move on!