DP and I have been together just over a year, get on well, he has children, I don't, we are monogamous and looking to move in together very soon.
We met at a munch, a meeting in a pub for people into kink. We regularly go to a play party/club with a number of our mutual friends, when we go DP and I tend to play together, but there have been times when we have played in a group. I like being spanked, I have spanked and been spanked by others in the group and he has publically spanked me and a few other people. Everything is consensual.
At this point I think it is important to stress that play/spanking doesn't have to be sexual, I guess the best analogy I can think of is to compare it to a back rub, sometimes it is foreplay and very sensual/sexual, sometimes it is fun and enjoyable but in no way sexual/intimate. For me it is only sexual if I am doing it in private with someone I am sleeping with.
Next month our regular club night falls on my birthday. We were in the pub the other night when I told a woman in our group that it was my birthday, this caused her to point out I should get a birthday spanking (I was expecting her to say that) and to ask some of the people there if they were going to join in. I joked with her and suggested that because of my age it would have to be done with a feather, but indicated that I was keen on the idea.