Did you meet your DH after believing you wouldn’t?

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I can’t imagine even falling for someone now. I’d love a husband and family but my last relationship in my twenties feels like forever ago and can’t imagine feeling so carefree and certain about someone now.

Some bedtime reading of happier endings would be really nice :)

Yes I never thought I would meet anyone. Then I prayed for a husband (Catholic) and literally a month after I started my DH came into my life.
Don’t give up!

Thank you :)

Anymore out there?

After a divorce I was single for 4 years, that's how long it took before I felt 'ready' for something more than just a date. I met my OH via OLD and we've been together 2 years.

I felt the same as you after the big split. We'd been together 10 years and had 2 children, I thought I'd never take another relationship seriously but that changes when you meet someone you click with, and if you don't feel that way then you've probably not met the right person yet.

You will meet someone and they will be right for you, but you definitely need to be ready and accept the new relationship to be part of your life.

Yes yes and yes! Was basically single forever before I met my partner. Friends started getting boyfriends at school/college etc. it just never happened for me and continued to not happen for many years! I was shy and that thing that happens in books and movies where the boy chases the girl and 'breaks down her walls' never happened to me and I honestly with all my heart thought it never would.

Although we'd known each other for a while I was a few years into my 30s when my partner and I properly got together and moved in together. Now we have a baby!

You know I'd almost forgotten I even felt that way until I read your post so hang on in there. When it does come along you'll appreciate it all the more. I thank the universe every day for the family I waited so long for and never take it for granted.

So lovely to read! Made me smile and gave me hope, thank you!

Yup. Spent my 20s having a sequence of 1 night stands plus a handful of short 'relationships' with men who were, with hindsight, were nearly all extremely poor choices for me. I was very cynical about it, didn't think anything was likely to be perfect so just got on with whatever I could get.

It didn't feel so grim at the time, I was happy enough (surprisingly so) but I never really had any sense of my own worth or that there might be someone out there who would be right for me, or treat me with genuine love and respect.

I found him when I was 31 and many of my friends had already been married for years. I definitely wasn't looking for him, but we've been together for 9 years and I can't imagine ever being (or wanting to be with) with anyone else now.

I was always dating or in and out of short relationships, and was seriously thinking there was something wring with me as I never met anyone that wanted to commit. When my husband asked me out I sort of forced myself to say yes as he totally wasn't my usual type. I, basically, took a chance on someone different and 15 years, two children, several houses and a couple of new careers later we're still going strong! Keep the faith OP

I never had the slightest interest in romantic/sexual relationships before I met my husband and I was sceptical even then but I thought I'd give it a go and it turned out to be wonderful.

Ahh nice to read some positive stories. Mine was a set up from friend. Been together 16 years & 2 kids and nice house 😊

Had heartbroken by a man who ran away with a trapeze artist when we were travelling in Asia (I mean serious who could have foreseen that!! Lol). Swore I'd never get serious again. Definitely wasn't looking. Actually was doing the opposite of looking!

Now married!

I was single for nearly 7 years before I met my DP (tinder). We bought a house 2 years later, another 2 years later we are planning our wedding 😃😃😃

I was 37 and had been single for years and years when I started seeing my now husband. I was just about resigned to being alone and he happened! I knew him for a couple of years before he asked me out, which gave us a good foundation. 11 years on, we're married and still bonkers about each other. I feel like the luckiest woman in the world.

Nobody was more surprised than I was when I fell in love. Resolutely single, career mad, no interest in kids, partying hard and loving it. Then my future husband turned up at work and that was it. Met at 36- now 45 and have 2 daughters and a dog. Still amazes me!!

Yes. ‘D’M always said I’d “Never meet my match” (was a rather feisty teenager). I was dating women before meeting DH and he was just IT!

At 24, I'd given up and thought I'd never meet anyone. I then met two guys, one of whom became my now DH. I'd had no relationships bar one vague friendship/tipped into more so I was a bit amazed!

@Epiphany52 fellow catholic. Can I tap into your prayer ? Mine doesn't seem to work

At 30 after being single for 6 years I have given up

I said the rosary - 5 decades a night and also said a vocation prayer.
I hope you find him

I had given up on the thought of marrying a man I actually loved and having more children - and unbelievably it happened in my late thirties. I cannot believe it but don’t ever think it can’t happen.

I always had horrible relationships and I had properly given up on men. I vowed to stay single and I was really happy with my decision - I even considered going to live in a commune!

Then he just appeared from nowhere, we have our ups and downs and some stuff is hard but we are very happyz

So so nice to read.

I really feel like this is it for me so it is giving me some hope at least. It’s hard though.

In my late I twenties, I came out of a relationship that wasn’t working and decided to forget about men and concentrate on my DD and my career.

A few months later I met my DH. He said one of things that attracted him to me was that I had my priorities right.

Our 30th wedding anniversary is coming up.

Loving all these stories!!

Yes. Sworn off men forever. Immediately met him.