Period = No show from guy.

[VexedWW]

Started dating a guy around a month ago, all going well, so I thought... messages me nearly every day etc, see each other a couple of times a week.
Nothing sexual for the first 2 dates but we did sleep together on the 3rd & he's been coming over since.

I was supposed to be seeing him today for lunch then spend the afternoon together but I have come on my period this morning so I thought I'd better give him the heads up incase he was wanting sex (although I still wanted to see him either way) so I dropped him a text and he replied 'haha, oh no think il stay away'
Thought he was being sarcastic but actually just didn't show up!!!!

Wow!! I feel totally used now & a bit gutted as I'd actually started to like him.

Dodged a bullet there op! Awful behavior

What an absolute bellend!

I think I’d leave him to it and not bother with him from now on. Him not turning up shows he was only bothered in one thing, when he should’ve still used the opportunity to spend time with you and get to know you further. I suppose at least you’ve found out now rather than a bit later down the line.

Wow! how old is he? Sounds about 12...

You should ask him what he's playing at. Maybe his only experience of periods is a sister or ex who had horrendous periods and couldn't move from the sofa or something. Although in that case he should have been asking if you needed something/wanted to do something different. Clutching at straws here, sorry, he sounds odd!

What a wanker. He is DEFINITELY just after one thing. Well at least you found out now. You have dodged a bullet really

He is a dick, and you shouldn't have mentioned it up front. There was no need to, as a nice, normal guy wouldn't have cared.

I was out with my sister one night and she hit it off with one of the men in my social circle. They headed off back to his and he was quite insistent it wasn't just sex he was after.

She confessed it was just as well as she had her period.

He had the taxi turned around and dropped her back off at the bar we were in.

Bullet dodged.

Un-Fu**ing-believable!!

I certainly won't be messaging him again.. ahh well like you say, bullet dodged, at least he's shown his colours.

I messaged up front because I didn't want any awkwardness if things went further later... Not even a message to say he wasn't actually coming, or an excuse etc.

He's 33... mentally 12 😂

I did lol at 'he's been coming ever since'

Sorry op!

Get rid of him. Block and move on

What a piece of shit! Next time, make him wait and long for it, since he's obviously after sex. You've got nothing to lose by the way.

Bet he texts you in a few days to ask if you're "better" and want to meet up

Haha deffo, Smeller89

It may be they he is all thirst things.
But hard to say w/o knowing what sort of ‘dating’ you are doing.
If you got together on a hook up or a relationship site.
And also - depends how you said it too. For example - when I am on my period - first day is a torture and i’d Cancell myself.

Given that you have nothin to lose - ask him? On an odd chance he was being respectful. Small chance, but why not ask.

Don't do that 'heads up' thing when you have your period. If a man doesn't want to see you because he may not be able to put his dick in you then he's an arse.

(Unless it's explicitly a hookup scenario of course)

Some men are so weird about periods. "I'm on my period" and they react like you've got leprosy.

Happily the majority of guys I've been in ltr with have been happy to still fuck during that time of the month, or run out and get me a takeaway if I'm not horny!

Probably @Smeller89 😂

@MMmomDD, we went to school together, recently reconnected through social media.. dating as in dinner..
He's come over & we watch films etc.
Stays for a while afterwards - always a few hours, stayed once, so not just DTD & running...

Still I think it's pretty clear from the text back that I thought was sarcastic but actually wasn't that he's a wanker :(

What a twat op.

Several years ago went away to London with my then dh and another couple, the women of the other couple mentioned that she felt grotty because she had a heavy period when we were out having meal. Her husband looked up and declared that this whole weekend was now pointless and they may as well go home. . He was then sulky for the rest of the evening.

Men can be very funny about periods!

Going to go against the grain here and say that the tone of your message would actually suggest to me that you only wanted sex from him?

Can't think why you would give 'the heads up' otherwise?

I'm not sure the heads up is necessary. However at least it reveals his personality. What a man-child.

Dunno, I give a heads up so they can mentally prepare for the bloodbath ahead - or opt out of sex if squeamish. You never know with new blokes. But literally not bothering at all? Dumped! (Could be worse ... could be a 'blow job instead then' kinda guy)

They can opt out on the spot though can't they! If you want to see each other then kissing and cuddling and non piv sex can still happen!

If you are just a casual shagging thing I think it’s fair enough and not everyone like period sex, I’m a woman and don’t have sex then because I don’t like it.

If you were actually dating and heading in to relationship then yes it’s bad as he didn’t want to spend time together without sex.

However you “heads up” message would of read to me that you just wanted a shag tbh

(You can buy a type of mooncup you can wear during sex now)

Ive given the heads up before. The response was "I don't mind, if you don't... and there's plenty of other stuff we can do - or nothing at all, if you want..."

Right answer. It's not rocket science.

No, I definitely still wanted to see him, and I think the way I worded my message to him made that quite clear too.

I just gave the heads up because it's still all new & the first time since we started dating / shagging.

@rememberatime that's the kind of thing I was hoping for.
😔 oh well!!