Should I cancel my wedding

[Hayley78]

I have cold feet about marrying my fiance we are due to be wed in 6 months and I feel like I am letting my family down if I cancel they have spent so much money and I will be so embarrassed I have no one to turn to I am in turmoil. He has changed so much since I met him four years ago his mood swings are vial and it's like treading on egg shells constantly. We never ever go out together as a couple and he has also taken credit cards and phones out in my name and hasn't paid them for months although he works and earns good money. If i leave him I am not going to be able to pay them aswell as the house bills. I can be moody I no there is always two sides and he takes us on holiday every year and buys my daughter stuff and he pays the gas etc but I feel like he is taking the mick I am I rite in thinking it is going to get worse I am heartbroken I love him so much and I have made such an effort with him and his family and friends over the xmas and new year but I have been down a dark road before and scared of history repeating itself any advice is much appreciated
Also I am new to this so apologise if I have done it wrong

My best friend went through with a wedding she knew was not right because her parents had spent thousands on it. She still regrets it and was divorced before her parents had finished paying for it. Walk away.

@Hayley78 I feel for you so much, this is a extremely hard position for you. Your having to make a huge decision based on someone else's actions that will affect your life either way.
And that's really it.
You either put up and it gets worse or you leave and it gets worse. The only decision is what's best for you now and in the next year.
I would request that he repaid back the debt etc before you consider married and if he doesn't you know who he is. No excuses. If he wants to spend his life with you no more free rides.

Right then OP!
Time to take back control of your life.
Small steps.
1st one, cancel the reception and see if you can get any money back.
If not then so be it - if you can then keep it for yourself.
You need to now put you and your MH at the top of your priority list!
This means you need to kick him out.
You may need some help with this.
Do you have any family or friends who can be there when you tell him?
If not then pack his stuff into bags and take to a relative of his or a friends where you know he will go.
If you can't do that then leave them out front and tell him to collect them.
Get the locks changed!
Then call 101 and report him!
Good luck OP - You got this!!!

“Sunk Costs Fallacy” - just suck up the cost of the dress and venue ( I am sure you can negotiate these also ).....this is just the tip of the iceberg - need to minimise the costs by cancelling ASAP.

There are loads more “costs” if you don’t cancel now - financial , legal and emotional.

Don’t let your family and friends waste their own hard earned money on travel, clothes, gifts, accommodation and a “fake” wedding - they will feel cheated if you divorce in the next few years.

Need to take the first step - who are you going to tell - today?

Great post @another20

Just to add to ask the great advice already, you can call the credit card companies abd put a spending cap on them at whatever the current balance is, so he can't spend more on them (I'm pretty sure you can freeze then too, just call the company for advice. You can also prevent the mobile phones from running up bills greater than the contract minimum.

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