How soon did you know he/she was “the one”?

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How long after meeting your dh/dp did you realise they were “the one” and that you wanted to stick with them?

My parents have friends who met at 16 and are now still together 40+ years on.

Honestly about 2 weeks. He's the reason I'm alive today and I will always be grateful for him

The night I met him. Bought him home for a one night stand and I just new he was never going to leave. And he didn’t!

The night I met him

Things didn’t work out until a couple of years later but no matter what happened I always knew he was ‘the one’.
I love him

About two weeks. I was drunk at bestival with my best mate and kept saying "I think he's...". She kept shushing me and telling me to calm down.

The night we met face to face after 2 or so months of online/text comma. We got married in July 2018.

About a week after we started dating. I thought he was too young for me and I almost dumped him until he talked me out of it. He was early 20's I was in my 30's. Still going strong!

The day I met him..we have only been together 3 months and are getting married at the end if January!! We are in our early 40's so didn't want to waste time x when you know...you just know x

The night we met, after a week of online/ WhatsApp messaging and phone calls. Still going stronger x.

I knew it felt 'different' from before we were dating and I turned down a polite invitation to spend the night on the grounds I didn't want to do something we might regret in the morning, he smiled and asked if I still wanted him to walk me home, which he did, placing a gentle kiss on my forehead at the door. Then, because apparently friends knew he liked me a lot and engineered situations where he was around at the same time as me, we started talking and, in between periods of feeling really self conscious and embarrassed like a couple of kids, he managed to stop me in my tracks and double up with laughter.

Lots of good - and some unpleasant - things have happened since then, but we've got through them and, bar my online bitching about him and fantasies about running off with Jason Momoa I know he's the One and always has been.

I met my DH in high school. I ‘fancied’ him throughout year 11and we had a few snogs in the school’s chapel garden lol.

My mum bought me a plush fairy that year, that had a tiny little bag attached to her hand. Inside was a tiny scroll, where you could write your one big wish. I wrote ‘I wish that ‘Bill’ and I, one day get married’. I knew then at the age of 15 that I wanted to be with him.

DH asked me out in year 12, at the age of 16. We are 39 now and still very much in love. He’s my best friend, my adventure partner, my lover and the only person in the world I can be my idiotic self with.

Wow, lots of people knowing it straight off the bat! I felt this way too when I met my exH. But he turned out to be a lazy, moody husband and I divorced him!

Met DP three years ago. Got the collywobbles when he walked through the door. But (due to my previous experience) have held back any deciding. Until I’ve seen him and me both at our not-best. I think I’ve decided now!

Exhusband on the day I meet him. He's ex so that didn't work so well. Lol It was a case of eventually discovering my 'perfect' man had feet of clay. Huge big ones!!

Present and hopefully last husband took a complex and extended period of time (10 years as fwb, friendship, back to fwb again, coupledom) before I realised. It snuck up on me and i knew all his 'negative' points were outweighed, by far, by his positive and think I'm more secure about us because of that.

I knew it was great at the beginning however I had come out of a very abusive relationship and was very wary and untrusting of any man. I would say by a few months in, after he supported me through the court cases and a nightmare period, I just knew that was it.

Within moments of meeting him.

There is no 'the one's.

There are various people with whom you could fall in love and make a relationship work (any many other potentials whom you never meet due to circumstances).

As to how/when you know; when they've consistently been interested, commited and treated you well for over 18 - 24 months (and you feel good about them).

There is no 'the one'.

@MitziK - apart from Jason Momoa of course, I'm sure he's going to break up with Lisa any day now and we'll all get a crack at him 😉.

A few weeks after I met him. I had a date with someone else (we were not dating exclusively) and it was a complete disaster. He was very self absorbed, focused on his ex, pretentious, and if I did talk, he said that his stories were better. Although, this was obviously not the impression he gave over text convos.

I spent the whole time texting now dp, met him again the following day, and that has been it since.

About a month

My pants went ping on first meeting him and have everyday since. I knew he was the one after 4 months we were having a deep and meaningful conversation about something and WHAMMY!

We've just celebrated 20 years of our first snog

It took a while for me, at least three years before I was sure. I was in my 20s and having fun with friends etc. I liked having him as a boyfriend, but I didn't know we would end up married with kids. We've been together 21 years now.

I don’t believe in ‘the one’.

I pushed him away a lot in the early days, having been badly hurt in the past and also I was grieving from having lost my mum. I had a moment about 8 weeks in when I was accompanying him to an event, I met his family and friends and saw how he interacted with them and how much they all thought of him, and then we were dancing and I just looked at him and thought ‘oh, I love him’.

I knew he was someone I could marry after a few years of being together, moving in, overcoming obstacles together, smoothing out a few rough edges on both of us, learning together etc.

Boringly practical I know but I’m just not a ‘the one’ type of girl.

Saw my DH from a distance and fancied him so ditched my long term BF to pursue him. Stood next to DH and his friend in a club and friend says 'DH needs a girlfriend' I agreed to be his girlfriend and invited him back to my room.

I have a letter from DH 1 month into our relationship that says he loves me and wants to marry me. We have been together 25 years now!!

I hope he is the one (whatever that is). I definitely love him and the beautiful daughter he gave me.

When I met him first I knew I definitely wanted to see him again. Nothing has changed there. I still just want to spend more time with him.

Sorry not very romantic.

Within 2 weeks we had moved in together and I knew I wanted him to be my BF. When he was holding my hand at my DM’s funeral I knew he was the man I would marry. Happily married and 15 years later I know he’s the one for me.