Last night in an argument my partner told me that he thinks I'm losing it. He said I'm angry and that I over react to everything and he worries about telling me things or doing things because of what my reaction might be.
I'm horrified, our relationship has had its ups and downs over the last few months but I can't believe he feels like this. I can sometimes be snappy but he let's me know each and every time and it is something I'm working on.
We argued on NYE before bed but on the morning of NYD when he got up he was being lovely and trying to move on from the argument the night before. We then both went out for the day (separately) and when I got home everything had changed, he was quiet with me all evening and didn't seem very engaged. A few hours later when we went to bed he snapped at me about something minor so I did snap back, what ensued was a horrible row where he told me what I have said in the first paragraph and we argued til the early hours of the morning.
I have said that we need space and that we need to think about what we actually want from this relationship because neither of us wants to live like this. He laughed and told me that this was the perfect example of me over reacting. That he tried to talk to me about the fact I over react and I responded by threatening to end the relationship.
I feel like I'm going mad. I don't know what to do.
The relationship feels toxic, last time I suggested time apart after a big row he accused me of being controlling. I'm lost right now.