Dumped because I have children

[Forallittakes]

He didn’t exactly say so but it’s pretty obvious that was the dealbreaker.

Part of me thinks fuck him. Any man I have a relationship with needs to take my kids on as well as me.

But another part of me feels desperately sad that he didn’t love me enough to love my dcs as well.

Personally, I prefer men with kids as I believe we'd be on the same wave length as we're both single parents. But some men with kids sing all the right tunes, get you where they want, then fuck off.
On the other hand, there are some men without kids who would be happy to be with a woman regardless of her kids, they're happy to even take the relationship to the next level and eventually have their own kids.
My point is, it's personal choice, and it's about finding that balance when in the dating scene. I think the realisation hit him as you both got serious hence the sudden change. It's just a shame he didn't explicitly state the reason for his behaviour and your assumption could be true. It's 2019, I'm sure the right man will come along. He clearly isn't yours. You'll be just fine in time.

I think once you get to a certain age and are single and wanting to date, the likelihood is that most people will have children.
There's nothing wrong with deciding you don't want someone with kids but I think if he's told you this months down the line, it does suggest his feelings for you weren't right as if he loved you he wouldn't have left just because of the kids.
There are men who will date women with kids. I never found it hard to find men who wanted to date me as a single mum of three kids, in fact if anything, I was extremely picky about who I would consider.
I met my husband when my kids were aged 7, 2 and 7 months. Not long after we had a child of our own and he considers my children to be his. So don't think all men will be like this one.

Here is another option to consider - the attraction just fizzled out for him and your children was just an excuse to get out. He just found a new way of saying "its not you, its me"

I have definitely read this before

But if my boyfriend said this about my child after 4 months, it'd set alarms off for me. Had he even met them?

Op I mean this gently but you say the relationship has been going down hill for a while. Why do you think it's the kids and not just simply it wasn't working for him?

And even if it was the kids, it's fine for him to understand what's involved and not wish to take it further. What he said at the beginning doesn't mean he is then committed to you for life.

Better now than later. You and your kids don't need a man who's not committed. At least he didn't try to make you conflicted between him and your kids. Also, watch out in future for too keen, too soon especially wrt kids.
It's done now.
Fwiw, I wouldn't have dated a guy with kids. It is more challenging as a unit.
However, if I was a lp with my Dd, i wouldn't bother dating until she was grown. But I am unusual like that.

I don't date blokes with children under 18. I've had that rule for 12 years. The one time I broke it was not good. I just don't want to go there. My kids are grown, I do not want to start again.

I totally understand why he would finish it for that reason.

Dumped after 3 1/2 years due to kids still at home. Youngest 11 and GF empty nester. Didn’t want kids around. Hurts and I think selfish. Broker up with me once before for 6 weeks for a similar reason. Like an idiot I took her back, this time not unless she commits to seeing the therapist for anxiety or whatever is bothering her to dump the person she says she loves. Claims different stages of life. That’s bs and also claims anxiety issues. Excuses for being selfish?