My husband is super secretive over his phone and his computer. Whenever I look overbid shoulder I always notice it's the incognito tab the he is using. I try never to look at his phone or computer as when I do I find stuff I don't like. Anyway over Christmas he had given his password to the kids and they left the computer on so perfect for me to have a quick look. On it I found a file of photos of an ex girlfriend of a friend of his that he had donwnloaded from Facebook. As far as I know she lives in a different city and he hasn't seen her in 10 years. When I found these photos of I was very upset as he had made a similar file with photos of the same woman earlier in the year. The photos are not her in sexy clothes ect just everyday photos with her by herself and her with her kids. But his file history shows that he looks at them regulary. Last time when he downloaded the photos one of them came up on my phone as we have a joint photo account so I confronted him about this one photo. He dismissed it saying he didn't know how it had happened but then I noticed that he deleated the file. I left it after that as I don't really know what to do. When I found this new file I was crying my eyes out and so when he asked what was wrong I told him. He dismissed it completely and said it was completely normal for him to have these photos and that how can I say anything to him when I am always looking at pictures of my ex on Facebook (which is total rubbish). This was two days ago and he is still saying it's normal and I am in the wrong. I think its really creepy for him to have these photos. I've asked him why and he said he doesn't know. He also said he's now deleated the file but all he's done is moved it into a work file so he thinks i'll think its gone. I don't understand this. Im pregnant and sad. He goes out three times + a week and comes back in the middle of the night without letting me know where he is - if I ring or text him he just ignores it. He never comes to bed when I go to bed but he insists that he is happy with me. We do have good sex and he does take good care of me when he is around but snaps at me a lot and implies that I couldn't live without him. I don't have anyone to talk to about all this and I would appreciate other people's thoughts.