Do I ruin everyone's new year?

[whyisthissodifficult]

First time poster, but long time lurker.
It's the usual story, I thought he'd change. Well he hasn't and I've found out today. I will most definitely LTB, but do I do it tonight and ruin the evening for everyone, given shit storm that will ensue?

The long game is hard hard hard. I know cos I did it - but the best revenge is a life well lived and you'll come out of it better if you plan. If you're struggling think of it as doing the best for your child.

Sod his mum and sister - know it's not their fault, but he will be ruining their night, not you - he's ruined everything by the sound of it, so do what is best for you and do it now - don't put yourself through anymore - I hope you can have a healthy, happy new year when all the dust settles a bit

Would he not go and spend the evening with her?

How can you see the messages?

If my friend was going though this I'd hope they'd call me. DH and I are having a quiet night in but I'd welcome them in an instant.

Just have an early night, don’t have a few drinks otherwise you might let it out.

My mum and dad split up on New Year’s Eve when I was a teen. He left that night to be with the OW.

I’ve never celebrated NY since that night. I know that’s my choice but NYE brings back awful memories of that time my mum was heartbroken and died a drunken mess years later she just couldn’t get passed it.

It doesn’t have to be this evening

Take care

Tell him to go see her, and start off new year as you mean to go on.

Tell him to pack his bag and go to his girlfriend's and stay there, since that's clearly where he want to be and you're done.

You are not responsible for anyone else's night if he drags them into it; he is.

Why be civil and nice, he has acted a twunt, tell him to go now.

The only person you will be upsetting is yourself by not acting. I couldn't be as nice as you.

He has caused this situation.

Although very tempting to leave tonight, it’s not the best timing for you and your son. You aren’t sure which friend to go to and for the sake of your boy you need to be in control of the situation and with a plan.
Stay sober and calm. Not easy. Also any advisory or legal practises will not be open until at least the 2nd January.

Tell him you know and demand he goes. If it ruins anyone's night, it's his fault not yours

Hope you're okay OP. 2019 will be your year, start by getting rid of the dead weight at home

Like DailyMail said: if you do the big actions tonight then NYE will always be tainted. If it were me, I’d just feign a headache and say you need an early night. Then I’d go to bed and make all my plans and try and get some sleep.

Maybe go and visit friends or family on New Year’s Day then tell him to piss the fuck out of your life on the 2nd.