Do I ruin everyone's new year?

[whyisthissodifficult]

First time poster, but long time lurker.
It's the usual story, I thought he'd change. Well he hasn't and I've found out today. I will most definitely LTB, but do I do it tonight and ruin the evening for everyone, given shit storm that will ensue?

I am starting to worry that I will do that at midnight, no way can I kiss him or toast in the new year! What a fucking arsehole...

What would happen if you told him to get out? What a horrible end to the year.

Play the long game. Seriously. Act fine, get the evidence you need. Keep your dignity.

Why can't you tell him to leave?You and DC stay put.

Got plenty of evidence, long game is so hard!!

I would be staying with a friend or claiming illness tonight. Make sure you have hard copies of any evidence. There’s a difference between what you know and saw and can prove and produce.

I'd join in with texting
Although probably not the best advice.

If you can pretend everything is okay, even for one night, you’re a better woman than me.

It’s a horrible position to be in and I’m sure you’re consumed by anger but also devastated.

I’d have to confront him and then tell him to piss off but you’re the one going through this so you have to make your own mind up.

Keep strong and keep posting, you’ll get loads of support here 💐

What you mean join in lol, I think that may give the game away!

I posted on here because I know you are rational women, I need to get my ducks in a row etc etc, when I just want to let rip!!

Yes, that's why I did say it was not the best advice 😬
But if he stormed off you'd have an evening to yourself!

I don't really understand why you need to wait when he's literally messaging her right now. Just tell him to sling his hook and have a nice evening with your son!

You have the upper hand, keep hold of it. Hang in there
Are you a drinker? I would abstain if there's a chance it will loosen your tongue.

I don't know either kitty, I think maybe I'm scared, I think he knows I know, he's being extra nice!

I couldn't do it, OP. It would be torture - the film of that adulterous arsehole on permanent replay in your mind all night.
Nah, don't do it to yourself.
Poker face on and get yourself round to your friends house for the night.
For you

You know sometimes when you don't want to be an adult and you just want someone else to do it for you!

Send the dirty fucker out to the shops to buy milk and take the opportunity to lock him out tonight.

It's his own doing, silly arse.

Why should you and a 12 year old child be facing homelessness at this time of year? He's in the wrong, he was on a final warning, he broke the promises he made, he needs to go.

I'm sorry

Being cold and clear and getting those ducks in a row will ensure the best outcome for you and your son.
If you were my friend you’d be more than welcome here. To drink and vent and work out new and torturous ways to make him pay!

If I were your good friend, I’d want you to call me and spend your bye with me and my family. You wouldnt be imposing because I’d be privileged to be there for you.
NYE comes every year. You being with us would still make it a good nye as I’d know you weren’t slap bang in the middle of a predicament with an arse of a guy.
Call your friend. If it were her in trouble, you’d want her to call you.

Oh he's definitely going there's no doubt about that, but if I lock him out, he'I'll ring his mum or sister and then that's their night ruined. I need to stop worrying about other people and focus on me and my son, I know that

His loss sweetheart.
Hope you get through the evening with your dignity intact.

I’m so sorry this is happening. What an arse he is.

My only advice for now is don’t let yourself get drunk tonight. As angry as you are you seem in control of things. Don’t lose control through booze. Good luck xx

Firstly
It's shit. Been there, lying cheating fuckwits.

Secondly, why are you ruining everyone's new year? Surely starting yours free of said cheating fuckwit is the best new year start you can give yourself?

It’s your call but don’t worry about upsetting his familyif you decided to kick him out now - that’s on him.

What would happen if you calmly said - as you’re messaging her, why don’t you go. Oh and don’t come back?

Alternatively if you don’t trust yourself, say you have a headache and go to bed early?