Relationship problems

[Kan23]

Hi first time posting on here...
I moved to live with my partner 5 years ago, I was dreading moving 2 hours away from my family, friends & hometown. But felt I had to give it a try. I know 2 hours drive isn't that far but I miss my family so much.
I have spoken to my partner about how that I feel homesick but he has told me he can't moved because of his job. He also said I'm too sensitive & too close to my family & I've not tried hard enough to make this place my home.
I have suffered on/off anxiety & depression since moving, I try to see my family when I can but I work long hours which makes it harder.
I not sure if I love anymore, he nitpicks everything I do, he tells me I'm not allowed to smoke, I walk to slow, he comments on my accent & corrects me if I say something wrong. More recently it about the way I sit on the sofa, I'm not allowed to slouch or lay down, I have to sit up straight. He also complains about the dinner I cook, that it's not healthy enough, then he will sit & eat 3 packets of crisps later on. He asks me why I'm chewing gum & what I'm doing on my phone.
We haven't been intimate in months, I don't fancy him anymore...
Is he trying to control me???

He's an abusive twat. PLEASE get away from him. I'll bet your family is utterly terrified for your safety and welfare.

It’s just that last final push. You have done loads to inch away, getting stuff sorted. What’s the next practical step you can take? Do you have a timeline for when you can make your move?

As soon as I get my transfer with work I can go, I can stay with my parents until I get sorted with my own place.

Have work given you a timescale for that?

Hopefully in the next month.

That’s great and probably why you are feeling anxious as you are near the end. Do you have a plan in place once you get the go ahead?

I've not decided that yet!

I'm just feeling so confused at the moment, worrying about the future. My anxiety is telling me what if I make a mistake if I leave & regret everything. But I'm happier when he's away working & I'm on my own, I feel gutted if a trip is cancelled or he comes back early & just the thought of being intimate with him repulses me 😥

Listen to your gut. You are not making a mistake - the only mistake is that you have stayed so long. All will be good.

Count down to freedom, congratulations .

He's working on you. Read the posts you've made on this thread and remind yourself what you want/need !!

Your anxiety is his voice. How you feel when he's away shows that voice is lying.