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Ex creeping round with a balaclava on

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Dextrodependant · 29/12/2018 18:38

My ex has been harassing me, it's been going on for a year and a half maybe and the police are involved. He is due in court next month AGAIN, I have a non molestation order which states he can't come within 100m of my home. His bail conditions say he can't come within 50m I think.

I went out with an old friend over Christmas and we have become a couple. Ex has seen photos on someone's Facebook, (not mine, I have a profile under a fake name that is locked down.) And today he was hanging around mine with someone else both wearing balaclavas.

One of the neighbours took a photo and I have rung the police but they said they can't identify him from the photo.

I know 100% it is him. I recognise his clothes, I can tell from his body language/shape. But the police have said there is nothing they can do.

I just need a hand hold tonight, feeling a bit upset and alone with the kids. I will have to end my new relationship before it has even had chance to start. Can't risk the ex turning up and seeing him here. Just feel like I will never be able to move on.

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oatmilk4breakfast · 30/12/2018 09:16

This is really really serious. I think you need to consider going to stay somewhere else for a while. Telling everyone about this stalker / threatening behaviour. With his history I would be very alarmed. Write it all down, go again to police. Ask everyone you know not to post photos. This is stalking. Do take it seriously. Please take care of yourself.

Dextrodependant · 30/12/2018 09:40

Thanks for all the advice, all quiet last night . I am more worried for the new boyfriend in terms of violence as I am fairly sure that is who it would be aimed at. Just trying to get across to him how serious it is. Luckily he lives hundreds of miles away and will be going home soon. He's not staying with me either so that helps.

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SylvanianFrenemies · 30/12/2018 09:51

Your boyfriend should unblock him. He may well get more messages that he could take to the police.

Are you dealing with a DV specialist at the police?

Gribbie · 30/12/2018 10:30

Was he charged with the assault on the person who asked you out? That’s shocking. New bf really needs to be careful.

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