Being contacted every couple of hours

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Recently dated someone who is very keen to be in contact. I’m a big texter and like to have my phone with me at all times, but would rarely make contact with someone so often. He will send pictures of petrol stations he is at, conditions of the road, a coffee he has bought. A friend said maybe if I was hugely into him I would love this. I don’t think that’s the case.... I find it suffocating! It’s made me wonder if I have ever done this to a man I liked... I cringe at the thought.

Anyone else feel this way?!

Just having a rant really :)

Do you always reply? What happens if you don’t?

If I don’t then he’d just continue and include ‘are you ok?’ messages.

I tend to reply with a closing comment like ‘have a good day’ or ‘speak tonight’ or ‘just at lunch’

He just continues! I’ve spoken to him about it before and he says he doesn’t think we speak much at all in the day.

I was seeing a guy like this....seriously overseen...put me right off!

He would also just ring me without texting to ask ...I just ignored him.

When he kissed me I wanted to bite his tongue off

Anyway...I'd get rid

Each to their own but this would drive me crazy and smacks of neediness.

I think that’s where I’m at!

As cruel as it sounds it just seems like I’m his only focus! I want someone who cares deeply but this has the opposite effect - it’s as if he doesn’t trust or have faith in us so has to keep checking in!!!!

Maybe they are really lonely? (I would hate this too)

#overkeen

I would be having a fairly frank discussion with him and putting out that whilst he may find constant texting the norm, you don’t share that view and find it a little overbearing.

That’s not fun, I’d feel hounded & stressed. I think you need to end it quickly.

If he’s this fixated after a few dates, what will he be like after 6 months?

I only had 3 dates with my guy and he bought me 2 presents for Xmas !

I like to text and keep in touch but there is a fine line....

Or maybe you just not that into him ?

Did you meet him on OLD?

IME he’ll carry on like this until you get keen too and then he’ll back right off.

It’s worth trying to sort it out though. Just mention you try and not check your phone that often or something.

I’ve tried to sort it out. I am firmly of the view that it needs to end so that’s the next thing to address.

He’s been a bit odd all round really. Wanted to be exclusive after 2 dates, said I was always on my phone and he couldn’t trust me...seems to get angry very fast, although not in an intimidating way. Always thinks he knows best and then when I’ve backed off even more the texts have gone through the roof. It was always full on from him from the word go though. Another thing was he always tells me he was never like this with his ex and it’s jjst because he likes me... the ex he was with for 4 years.

Massive red flags waving around there. End it as soon as you can and don't look back.

Get rid. He is trying to control you and dictate how you should behave.

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An abuser. I'd put an end to it right now.

Gets angry very fast... grumbles about you being on your phone....thinks he knows best...these are NOT good signs for a relationship. It shouldnt be this hard at this stage. Please, please trust your instincts and get rid. He may just be lonely with poor social skills, but it smacks of controlling behaviour to me.

This is almost frightening. Be careful.

End it but make sure he knows he's the problem and not you.
So you say "I don't want to see you anymore because your throwing around so many red flags it's Christmas again!" That sort of thing.

Please get out now. See Ghostsauce post .

Red flag central!

Would drive me mad and put me off.

Get rid now. And be prepared for trouble. It's just plain stalking.

I would flee and change my address. This is very odd behaviour.