Being contacted every couple of hours

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Recently dated someone who is very keen to be in contact. I’m a big texter and like to have my phone with me at all times, but would rarely make contact with someone so often. He will send pictures of petrol stations he is at, conditions of the road, a coffee he has bought. A friend said maybe if I was hugely into him I would love this. I don’t think that’s the case.... I find it suffocating! It’s made me wonder if I have ever done this to a man I liked... I cringe at the thought.

Anyone else feel this way?!

Just having a rant really :)

He sounds controlling and a bit scary.

Sounds like a basket of NOPE.

Jeez! Run for the hills. Sounds like a controlling loon already.

I’m so surprised at these posts. Wasn’t expecting anyone to say he was controlling. I just thought insecure to be honest.

I did think red flag with the phone situation. I’d gone to call my brother when he’d gone to the loo at a train station once and he said I’d wandered off to talk on the phone in secret...

That really unsettled me

Bin him. It won’t get better!

Controlling who is passing himself off as insecure which he probably is but that isn't your problem.

Please end this relationship, my friend is a few years down the line with someone who was exactly the same, it's a horribly fucked up mess and I won't be shocked when I get the call telling me she's dead.

He sounds crackers.

People that need constant validation between dates are normally hard work.

I’d have to get out immediately

Yes I had the constant photos too! Bizarre. Oh and lots of selfies?! It's actually quite Narcissistic isn't it?

Other people beat me to it OP, the examples in your messages definitely changed to classic controlling behaviour that can lead to domestic violence. Please please read up on it, the pattern is often very similar.

Run, Forrest, run

“I wasn’t like this with my ex, it’s just because I like you”

RUNNNNNN

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

Another vote for Ruuuuun!

Yep.

Manipulative and angry.

Get out now.

Oh dear me. Get rid of him, otherwise your life won't be your own any more.

More red flags than the world bullfighting championships.

Sounds worrying! It’s not just the texting (my dp of ten years was a bit OTT with texting in the beginning but calmed down once I told him straight!) it’s all the signs together, that make him sound like bad news.

He sounds like DD’s ex who wanted her to move in with him ( in a different town) after 2 dates ! Said he couldn’t bear to be away from her and was unhappy when she said no. Accused her of still wanting her ex which was rubbish . He also bombarded her with non stop texts and if she didn’t reply , he would accuse her of meeting other guys. Lots more but, eventually she saw the light and dumped him.

I’m really surprised you needed these red flags pointing out.

Sorry I don’t mean that in a horrid way! I just mean, to others it’s very clear. And I would wonder why it wasn’t clear to you

I met a guy on Twitter like that

In the space of 24 hours he went from "Nice Guy who is interested in me on Twitter"

To

"I hardly know you and yet I'm getting shit off you in my DMs if I don't maintain constant contact and if I tweet something without first replying to you"

My spider senses tingled and I blocked fast.

Run!