Wondering the MN consensus on this.
My parents always split the gifting equally at christmas time between DH and I. We usually get a sum of money between us. It is up to us whether we share the money or spend it on something collectively for the house for example.
My inlaws always give us separate gifts of money. I always have significantly less in my card than DH does.
Last year, DH seemed a little embarrassed and so we split all of the money equally. This year, he has proposed that we spend our joint money from my parents on something for the house and I get to decide what to spend the money on whilst we each keep our separate gifts from the ILs.
He has also asked me whether I would like him to talk to the ILs about giving us a joint financial gift from now on as opposed to seperate unequal ones.
I don't really know what to say.
I do find it a little strange that they give us separate gifts. To me, the amount they give to me is a lot, the amount they give to DH is significant. My parents give us quite a bit less.