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Text from dhs best friend

47 replies

Bossmum93xx · 27/12/2018 12:51

Back story.. my partner and I were supposed to be taking our two kids to see all his family for a few days but now me and kids aren't going as eldest has hand foot and mouth so partner is going on his own..
Anyway saw I text earlier to his best friend saying I'm going back to see family on my own as Toby (not real name of child) is ill so they're staying at home. Friend replied bet you're buzzing to go down there on your own and a load of laughing faces.. What does everyone think of this?

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LightFire · 27/12/2018 12:52

Does he get on with his family?

LEMtheoriginal · 27/12/2018 12:53

That his family are a pain in the arse and the fact you arent with him will make it even more shit?

Do you have reason not to trust him?

JollyGiraffe · 27/12/2018 12:53

That he doesn't really want to go and would prefer you all to be there with him?

Would assume he doesn't get on with his family/finds them tedious

dementedpixie · 27/12/2018 12:54

Maybe they were being sarcastic and mean the opposite of what the text says I e. The trip is to be endured rather than enjoyed

JollyGiraffe · 27/12/2018 12:54

Feel like there's backstory and you don't trust him or think he's bitching about you to his friend?

HirplesWithHaggis · 27/12/2018 12:55

I would interpret that as some form of sarcasm, eg you and the dc distract PiL's attention but he'll be the sole focus as you won't be there. And that this is not a positive thing.

kalefire · 27/12/2018 12:58

I'd wonder if there was a backstory to this as to why you were going through his phone??

It wasn't just a text that popped up in the screen for you to see as it's a few messages in a dialogue.

Seems v innocent to me and absolutely nothing to worry about (unless we get the back story)

CookPassBabtridge · 27/12/2018 12:59

I agree with others that it's probably sarcastic and it's much harder work without you and kids to distract.

Or he's saying it'll be much easier without kids and he can drink without responsibility.

Or there's an attractive person who will be there and his friend think he'd be buzzing to not have kids in tow.

Urbanbeetler · 27/12/2018 13:00

I would think it was laddish banter suggesting that instead of a grown up family visit, he can revert to late teenage behavious and get pissed with mates and lie in. A bit puerile but harmless shit.

YourEggnogIsBetterThanMine · 27/12/2018 13:02

I'd assume he means it's nice for your DH to get a trip home without a wife and 2 kids to look after Hmm maybe his mam will tuck him in at night and he'll get a lie in every day. I'm not projecting at all.....

Girlicorne · 27/12/2018 13:09

I think it means so he can go out and get pissed with no responsibilities?? Or its sarcastic and he's going to have a shit time without you. I don't think its anything against you or anything to worry about.

Hopoindown31 · 27/12/2018 13:11

I think it is not worth thinking about.

Atalune · 27/12/2018 13:12

He’s got a hall pass to drink with his mates and have a lie in?

I wouldn’t think anything more unless I had reason to...

jellybean85 · 27/12/2018 13:14

Either sarcastic and his mate knows he won't enjoy it or like the other said his mate is going to have a few drinks and enjoy
A lie in over a few kid few days.

In fairness if my dh was visiting family alone I would expect him to make the most of it and have a few drinks and lie in, wouldn't expect him to martyr himself over it lol just like if I'm going away kid free I also make the most of it Grin

MrsWolfe · 27/12/2018 13:17

My immediate thought is that he's being sarcastic and knows he won't enjoy it. Does he get on with his family? It's something my best friend and I would text each other.

HollowTalk · 27/12/2018 13:18

I'd take it that he was implying your husband will have a better time without you and the kids, ie lie ins and drinks.

sizzledrizz · 27/12/2018 13:19

It's obviously jokey in some way. I wouldn't think anything of it

Fattymcfaterson · 27/12/2018 13:22

I think there's a bigger back story and you don't trust your dp
Why are you looking through his phone?!

Deathraystare · 27/12/2018 13:29

errr hang on ... the child has hand, foot and mouth?????

Nanna50 · 27/12/2018 13:33

Unless he doesn’t get on with his family (and would therefore be a sarcastic text) I would take it that his friend meant he would have a great time on his own, I assume when you refer to laughing faces you mean laughing emojis?

This is the type of text that me and my best friend would send to each other if we were having to go it alone. As much as I love my DH and family the chance to be away with no responsibilities is always greatly appreciated.

hamzilla · 27/12/2018 13:35

errr hang on ... the child has hand, foot and mouth?????

That's what the OP said. Why does it warrant 5 question marks?

BrendasUmbrella · 27/12/2018 13:37

We don't know your DH and we don't know his friend. It could be sarcastic, or it could be gleeful. No-one on this board will be able to interpret it better than you.

DrinkSangriaInThePark · 27/12/2018 13:39

Deathraystar

What's wrong with Hand, foot and mouth?

AcrossthePond55 · 27/12/2018 13:39

This may sound silly but which laughing emoji? Because I think that may 'define' explain his friend's 'meaning'.

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Bossmum93xx · 27/12/2018 13:41

Thanks for the replied sorry i didn't give much of a back story. He gets on great with his family and I'm pretty sure his friend meant it as in yeah you can get away from your wife and kids ect. But why would he say that? I understand it will be nice for him to go on his own so he can see fam and friends ect without us there but to be "buzzing" for it seems a bit much to me. Must of bitched about me in the past to his friend

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