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Text from dhs best friend

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Bossmum93xx · 27/12/2018 12:51

Back story.. my partner and I were supposed to be taking our two kids to see all his family for a few days but now me and kids aren't going as eldest has hand foot and mouth so partner is going on his own..
Anyway saw I text earlier to his best friend saying I'm going back to see family on my own as Toby (not real name of child) is ill so they're staying at home. Friend replied bet you're buzzing to go down there on your own and a load of laughing faces.. What does everyone think of this?

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PoliticalBiscuit · 27/12/2018 13:42

I've sent similar messages to my friends and it is generally sarcastic! And would actually mean - oh dear, sounds awful.

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Bossmum93xx · 27/12/2018 13:42

And it's the classic laughing emoji >> 😂😂😂

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Unobtainable · 27/12/2018 13:43

I’d interpret that as being ‘let off the leadh’ to do as ge pleases while away without the wife and kids. Do you know the friend well? Will he be joining your dh?

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Bossmum93xx · 27/12/2018 13:43

Also dhs reply was "nah course not 🙄🙄"

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Bossmum93xx · 27/12/2018 13:44

I've met the friend a few times but don't know him that well but yeah think they're seeing eachother

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Unobtainable · 27/12/2018 13:44

leash
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ffs fat fingers

BollocksToBrexit · 27/12/2018 13:44

I don't think it means anything beyond normal banter between mates.

Unobtainable · 27/12/2018 13:46

Hm then I’d say that his friend is anticipating your dh being able to enjoy himself more than normal. What that entails I dont know. It could just mean he’ll go out and get pissed.

Harrykanesrightsock · 27/12/2018 13:51

Ask him?

twattymctwatterson · 27/12/2018 13:52

Pretty much the same as when I joke that I'm buzzing to be going to a child free wedding because I can let my hair down. It's meaningless

ScottyDog7 · 27/12/2018 13:55

I get why he's the one who's going (it's his family) and you keeping the ill and contagious child away, but why not let him take the other DC with him? Why keep them stuck at home with an ill sibling rather than visiting family at Christmas?

Clearly, I'm missing the point...

Rachelle3211 · 27/12/2018 13:58

I'd ask him. Why have you only met your dh's best friend a few times though?

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Bossmum93xx · 27/12/2018 13:58

Because the youngest is only 2 months so I wouldn't want him going away without me tbh and other half isn't confident enough yet

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Bossmum93xx · 27/12/2018 13:59

Because they live 3 hours apart and the best friend works away abroad a lot

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PawneeParksDept · 27/12/2018 14:04

I'd interpret that as :

a) best friend knows your PIL well, has a negative opinion of them, and is highly amused

Or

b) best friend knows your PIL well, knows he'll be fussed over and spoiled, is highly amused.

Option a seems more likely given the emojis

Not a marital concern x

GreenBea · 27/12/2018 14:07

Sounds to me like your OH would rather pull his own teeth out with pliers than go alone...his friend is being sarcastic about him having to endure it alone. Don't worry OP.

Dirtybadger · 27/12/2018 14:09

It's more a reflection of how your DHs friends feels than your DH. Even if it does mean YAY YOURE OFF YOUR LEAD. That's him saying it not DH. And his reaction may just be polite agreement rather than sincere. I wouldn't worry.

Awrite · 27/12/2018 14:11

I'd say the text reflects the sender's immaturity.

It may or may not reflect your dh's attitude. Given his response, I'd say it doesn't though.

SundayGirls · 27/12/2018 15:25

I would take it to mean that friend feels your DH will get a few days peace and quiet without kids where he can just probably get spoilt a bit by his family (being made food/drinks etc, being able to go to the pub or whatever without considering wife and kids.

I don't think it's a slur on you or the kids, it's just "Wahey! Kid-free you jammy sod!" type banter from a mate.

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Bossmum93xx · 27/12/2018 15:36

Sundaygirls I agree with you but for some reason it's just hit a nerve

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anitagreen · 27/12/2018 15:42

I would read that as the friend thinks he's excited to be by himself and have freedom

AcrossthePond55 · 27/12/2018 16:51

The emoji the friend sent says to me that (as a PP mentioned) he thinks your DH isn't going to have the 'best time' at his parents. The emojis your DH used seems to be saying 'I agree'.

Is his friend married? Could be he's projecting his own feelings about time with his family onto your DH. If he's single, he's looking from the outside in and doesn't understand that some men love to be around their wives/children. Either way, it's HIM, not your DH who's giving that opinion.

I think it's not unusual that it's hit a nerve. He's off celebrating the holidays (even if that means a quiet dinner with the parents) and you're home with sick DC. I'm sure a few hours (days?) of child-free peace and quiet is pretty desirable to you right now!!! Just be sure you get it when he comes back!

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