Made the effort to see my family and feel like they don’t care about me being here

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Probably totally dramatic and over sensitive.

Big backstory that I don’t have the energy to type but turn up to take my sibling for a drink as arranged and am met by him and my parents saying I am ruining his Boxing Day by making him leave the house.

Just feel like giving up.

I find it sad my mum has never done the hour drive to see me in my home in the four years I have lived here, but then she’s not obliged to, is she? And perhaps things like that I need to let go and not always associate that sort of thing with childhood memories and therefore blow my feelings of sadness out of proportion.

Perhaps you need to let go, but whose voice is telling you you blow things out of proportion? An hour is no distance at all to see your child. And maybe you are connecting these feelings to childhood because with a long view perspective you see troubling patterns emerging. behaviour which, as a responsible adult, you wouldn't inflict on a child of your own, whatever age they are.

She is just obliged to drive to your house as you are obliged to drive to hers!

It's part of being a family, both sides are supposed to make the effort.

They don't seem to make an effort with you. Do they expect you to make the effort for them, or do you make the effort of your own volition because you are hoping they will finally show you some love and affection?