Backstory here
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3060208-I-cant-take-any-more-need-help-to-grow-a-pair-please
My first Christmas ‘alone’ but DC are here with me, yay!
Have extended the lease on my house for another year, I really like it here and the neighbours are lovely. Work is good, DC have adapted well to going between 2 houses (with the odd bit of confusion and frustration from DD!) but all feels good and We have great quality time together. Especially DD and I as DS has now passed his driving test!
XH was a nightmare the first few months, constantly ringing at odd times to check where I was, telling me people were driving past to check I was in (laughable,but I had nothing to hide), and general being pretty shitty at times. But I had escaped and was making my own way in life.
A few weeks ago I noticed that his manner with me had started to change and he was more accepting of the situation. The weekly phone calls to sort out DC arrangements for the following week were getting less stressy.
Then he told me he wanted to let me know ‘he had met someone and it was serious’. I nearly did somersaults around the room. He wanted to tell me as we lived (he still does) in a village, and he knew I was in touch still with friends from there. I asked him not to tell the DC yet until it was more established, but I as I could have predicted, he did anyway, and as also predicted, DD got upset. His reasoning was again because they may have heard from elsewhere. Ok, point made.
I also asked that he doesn’t introduce them yet as it felt very early, and if it really was serious, he could wait. I think he has stuck to that, I haven’t asked.
But I may this morning. I have discovered under the tree (he is coming here for Xmas day for lunch and pressies with the DC, I decided to play the bigger person and invite him), presents to my DC from his new GF with xxx on. This has actually made me feel really shit. If you haven’t met them why buy pressies? Is she trying to buy their affection? Has he bought her DC (and DGC!) pressies?
I’ve also discovered DD is friends with on FB.
I know this is not AIBU, but AIBU to find this a bit upsetting? Could the pressies not have stayed his house for DC? I genuinely don’t give a shit he has met someone, but I feel like she is muscling in on my DC. He’s also started to compromise time with DC for her, which he promised he wouldnt do. I’ve had them the last three weekends running, which don’t get me wrong, I love, but it’s becase he’s been ‘busy’. And because he has a social life and friends and I don’t. His words. He’s right. I dint have many friends at all. I keep myself to myself.
The last thing, to end on a slight laugh, is ‘I’m fine now if you want to go and meet someone else too’. Cheeky f*er!
Sorry for long post. Happy Xmas to all!