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pof normal????

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letsmeet · 25/12/2018 09:12

I've just joined pof as it's free and I'd heard bad things about tinder.
I'm new to dating as I've only been with ex since 21 and now I'm divorced and 32.
made a profile on pof and got a load of messages within hours, some hi hey how are you? which I replied to and had nice conversations with, a few dick pics or sexual stuff right off the bat Envy. Then a lot of people asking for snapchat, I asked why and they all said to make sure we are who we say we are, which again fine by me as there's some very obvious fakes on there.
So every single one of the men who asked to snapchat ask for a pic, I send them one and they send me one( normal nice pic that shows face). they then move on to ask for a sexy pic and some sent me dick pics Hmm, I blocked them. I carry on talking to the ones who haven't sent me a dick pic but even they keep steering the conversation to sexual stuff!
Is this normal for online dating? am I just very naive?
and even this morning I've had a few Xmas dick pics to wish me a merry Xmas hence why I'm writing this right now. I thought I was opening snapchat to a nice lovely message and I've got 4 festive dicks instead.

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funicorn · 25/12/2018 22:05

I have never had any dick pics from free or paid sites . Maybe it's me :-) but then I am older. I'm now in a fabulous relationship with a guy I met on POF. Stick to regular things like WhatsApp or Messenger that doesn't disappear .

Mumteedum · 26/12/2018 08:15

I started old in the summer. First match, the ok Cupid then bumble and POF.

I have deleted every convo that starts hi how RU? I do not reply to most messages and there have been some weirdos. I never got a dick pic though!

I've been in dates with 3 guys. First two, nice enough but not that nice. Third one is lovely. Been talking for 2 or 3 months, met up a few times now and I really like him. It's mutual. Getting proper omg, can't believe I've met someone I like feelings right now! Still bit cautious but for a jaded old divorcee like me, it's pretty amazing.

Hang in there, don't take it too seriously and don't wait for them to come to you. All dates were ones I initiated. Good luck x

LuluBellaBlue · 26/12/2018 08:23

Back in the day, paid sites used to be better but these days I think it’s just men who are that desperate they can’t attract anyone on the usual sites.

Bumble is the best, Tinder second, then POF.

Luckily I came off any dating sites, threw myself into various hobbies, activities and trips away and have now met someone as honestly OLD can be soul destroying! Good luck!

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letsmeet · 26/12/2018 08:53

If I had the time I would much prefer to meet someone in person.
I'm glad so many have met genuine people on the site. I need to be thicker skinned I'm much too sensitive for this Xmas Sad

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Mumteedum · 26/12/2018 09:17

Believe me,it took me a while and I deleted accounts and stepped away regularly. If you're not ready then take a break. It's ok. It is early days with my POF guy but it's genuine.

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letsmeet · 26/12/2018 10:02

Had yet another pic this morning on pof itself however from a guy who has sent one before. I told him what I thought of him and his reply was 'Awk, don't be like that, I enjoy this Xmas Angry so blocked and reported that one and no more Snapchat being given out at all, I've looked at a few profiles and it does seem more obvious already who the chancers are.
I did think I was doing all right with the amount of the messages I kept getting each day but really there's not many genuine ones in there at all.
A break may be a good idea.

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greenlanes · 26/12/2018 10:27

Can you report the dick pics to pof or is it just not worth it?

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letsmeet · 26/12/2018 10:29

I have with the ones that were on pof.The ones on snapchat I just blocked. I don't know if they do anything with the ones on pof because I can see the guys I reported are still there.

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ChristmasRaven · 26/12/2018 10:32

I’m late 40’s and not particularly attractive and I was always getting messages from good looking guys in their 20’s. I think that they think that anyone older will be grateful for the attention and give them what they want, whether that be dirty pics/talk or even sex. It always seemed very sleazy and pathetic to me. One of the numerous reasons I gave up on OLD. I have a son older than some of the guys that messaged me! I think finding a decent guy on OLD is like winning the lottery. Some people do win. Most don’t.

VixenSixen · 26/12/2018 17:55

I would give POF a definite swerve...... I had my worst experience on POF and lasted 48hrs. Tinder is good (despite its hookup app reputation) just be honest about what you're looking for, people tend to be pretty straightforward online these days. I've recently started using Bumble and it seems to be much better, I'm sticking with it for now 🙂

Russell19 · 28/12/2018 22:20

Do you realise what snapchat was actually originally made for?! It's an app for nude photos....

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letsmeet · 28/12/2018 22:34

Is it really? I like it for the filters, makes me look pretty, then you take a normal photo and it's like Shock.
Joking aside I didn't know that's what it was made for but now that ice changed my profile and made very clear what I'm looking for, I've only had one more semi nude pic and one person requested snapchat but i declined.

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