Bit of a 'Love Actually' situation...

[momoa80]

So do and I swapped presents tonight, unknowing to him I found his receipt last week (couldn't stop myself reading) it was a jewellery shop receipt that had 3 items on...earrings, necklace set with earrings and a gift bag. He gave me my gifts tonight and there was the necklace set in the gift bag...one item missing.

How should I play this ladies?

Only you know your DP. If I found myself in this scenario with my DH it wouldn’t remotely occur to me that he was cheating, but my previous boyfriend.... yeah, that’s exactly where my mind would have gone (and I would have probably been right as he was a prolific and frankly skilled cheater!) So, I think that you need to take what he’s like into consideration.

Just for arguments sake, he probably wouldn't buy a gift bag for another woman, because the smaller the better. Earrings can be put in an inside pocket.

There could easily be an innocent explanation. Ask him and pay attention to his first reaction - annoyance that you're checking up on him is fine, panic is suspicious. If he says he won't dignify it with a response and then comes back with a response an hour later, he needed the time to make something up.

HS he form for buying nice presents ? Spent more than normal?

I (male) routinely buy stuff well in advance. If I see bits cheap in the NY sales I stash them for next Christmas or upcoming Birthdays etc. I don’t buy it just for the sake of being cheap, I’ll only get what I know people will like/want, but why pay twice the price for it?

But there’ve also been a couple of occasions when my DP’s commented on jewellery when we’re in town. I’ve popped back to buy it to put away for her B’day. I think a good partner should try and make the effort to note what you like/notice.

Maybe he returned the earrings.

Could you say something about liking them so much and wondering out loud if they have matching earrings to see how he reacts?

There may have been a special deal on so he bought more items.

Maybe one is for after the baby is born or your birthday??
Also see what materialised today.

Hopefully it's nothing.

Don't think I've seen the film. I'd have to ask him. Then again I'm not known for my ability to keep my mouth shut.

Tell him you want to get the necklace shortened and ask for the receipt for when you go back to the shop. His reaction will be telling.

Did the receipt specify necklace set with earrings? And is that what you got? Could he have changed the earrings in the set to ones he’d think you’d like better? Say you don’t wear dangly ones or something.

Are we talking gold and diamonds or more costume jewellery?

It’s bothering you so I’d ask, maybe just say “oh did you get anything else in that shop” and see what he says.

I think saltandvinegarcrisps1 has the solution

Any news? Hoping for positive news

Ask him

Salt and vinegar has it!

Is it part of a set? He could be saving the necklace for your birthday?

Are they a matching set? I'd think he's planning on giving you the earrings on your birthday / when baby is born maybe.

Maybe say you love it so much you might buy yourself the matching earrings and see if he 'fesses up to having them.

Well no news to tell today. So on the receipt it had the set I was given (necklace and earrings) but there was another set of earrings and one gift box/bag. I'm leaving it until tomorrow night then I will be asking him.

I was going to say same as saltandvinegar too.

If your birthday is in the first few months of the year he could have thought ''while i'm here, I'll save myself coming back in six weeks''

I think push present being bought in readiness... hope it is.

My OH did this and it was a push present - was sweet as the set had dangly earrings and he got me studs that also matched "in case we get a grabby baby". I only realised he'd bought them together when I went to exchange as one of the studs came loose though.
I'd do what saltandvinegar said.

Still no news to report...my birthday is July baby is due in May. Thanks for all the replies.

Should also add that the cost of the set for me was £20 total, that infinity set from warren james that's been on the tv. These missing earrings cost more than the set given.

Another one suggesting you follow salt and vinegar's suggestion. You have already seen the receipt but you are looking for his reaction. It's a way of finding out more without accusing him of anything or ruining a future surprise.

Will definitely go down that route as it isn't accusing just letting mull it and as you said see his reaction. I'm not one for confrontation though...