Husband belittling me and I've had enough

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Ive had to NC for this.

I think this is the last straw. Due to financial problems, my husband gave me his credit card. Now I am quite a simple person, I know nothing about credits cards or things like that I am someone who sticks to one card only. What I didn't know is if I take cash out, it charges high interest rates.

Anyway he found out and he has had ago at me so much that I am reduced to tears. He said that I've made a mess of things, I have messed everything up, I am stupid, why don't I know the difference between debit and credit card... I've apologised profusely and I've said I'm sorry! But I'm sitting here in tears and I honestly starting to feel that I don't love him anymore. Silly I know but I already have self esteem problems and things like this makes me feel even more worthless.

This is so silly but he has done this many times before. Any little mistakes I make, it makes me a stupid person. He belittles me in a way that it makes me feel like I am worthless piece of shit. He has made loads of mistakes in the past but I've always supported him and never have I judged him! Ever.

I don't know what else to do. I have never cried like this before because I used to be able to just take it but now I don't think I can anymore. I can't do anything right. He should've just told me in the nicest way that I mustn't do it again and that's the way I can learn but no, I just get spoken to like shit

I love it when people come together on mumsnet and help people out.

But then you see the nasty side of mumsnet on threads like this and think because they are anonymous, they can say any old shit to someone. Please realise if someone is posting for help then why would you berate them? Please respond kindly or at least with respect or not at all.

Op I have never owned a credit card and I don't intend to. I don't relish being in debt. So I wouldn't have known that fact either.
Your husband sounds very rude and I would be pulling him up on this. Have you said anything to him? Does he do this a lot?

Seems extreme as it was only £100 not £100000s of pounds!

“Any little mistakes I make, it makes me a stupid person. He belittles me in a way that it makes me feel like I am worthless piece of shit. He has made loads of mistakes in the past but I've always supported him and never have I judged him! Ever.”

This is a big red flag. Loving happy partnerships are not made by one person belittling the other to make themselves feel better. Get some counselling, alone or together, or consider whether you really want to be in this marriage.

PS - DH had no idea the credit card charged for cash withdrawals until I told him recently.

I made this mistake too once about the cash it's a simple mistake.

I feel so sorry for you especially as your husband has done this before. It seems as if he enjoys belittling you and making you feel bad. Someone who loves and cares for you wouldn't be doing this to you.
I couldn't stay in a relationship like this. It sounds awful. Please think about telling family or someone in RL.