Would you be bothered if your DH shared a cigarette with another woman?

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As in, same cigarette passing it between them. Female colleague on a night out

No, it wouldn't bother me

It's feeding a nicotine addiction. It's not a sex thing.

It would bother me a bit yes.
Because I agree. smoking can look quite sexy & flirtatious, you’re sharing something that you’ve sucked on.

Sandy many people have commented along the lines of,

"Yes, I fucking hate smoking. If they were passing a drink back and forth I would not bat an eyelid, actually I think I would prefer them to snog than smoke."
And

"I'd be more disgusted that he smoked"

One presumes the Ops husband is a smoker!

I've shared a cigarette with many males on nights out because I don't actually smoke anymore but my dh's friends always let me have a sneaky draw.

I'd put it on a par with tasting someone else's drink.. that can be totally innocent or flirtatious, depends on the context.

Depends on context.
My dh isn't sociable outside of a small circle and only smokes with his mates.
So sharing a cigarette with a woman that he wasn't already friends with would be very out of character and would bother me.

I stoooed smoking over a year ago but when I smoked I shared a cigarette with loads of people both men and women and particularly when drink was involved strangers of both sexes. The comment about she wouldn’t have done it with another woman of course she bloody would. It wasn’t a sex act it was a cigarette.

Nope. Before DH gave up, he sometimes shared cigs with my sister, or with female colleagues. I didn't mind - it meant he was smoking less of a cigarette and that could only be a good thing.

It’s probably similar to sharing a drink though, or eating off someone’s fork.

I wouldn’t share a drink (bottle) with anyone but DP. Occasionally if we go to the cinema he will offer our shared drink to his brother or his DCs and then I don’t want to drink out of it again, as to me, it’s crossed a line.

I also remember being utterly freaked out when I first met DP’s ex and she walked in to his house while we were eating, picked up his fork and took a bite of his dinner. To her (and him) this was obviously acceptable behaviour - in my mind she pretty much took a territorial piss all over him!

I think context is everything - who is the other person, what is he like about sharing generally - drinks, food etc, is he a regular smoker, is she, were they on their own, were there other cigarettes available or are they both trying to cut down so went for half each, is this a relationship which crosses other boundaries, eg too much texting etc and this feels like another boundary?

My instinct is that it would annoy me but I’m quite intuitive and notice little things that are out of place.

Some of the things that people get bothered by honestly amazes me. How the hell do people get through the day?

Nope.

Not a problem on my eyes unless there's a back story?

Eh?!

It would bother me more that he was smoking when he is supposed to have quit than who he was sharing it with...

Yes

Of course it would not bother me. The things people on MN sometimes get worked up about are quite odd really.

No.

no...

No it wouldn’t!

It’s sharing a cigarette not oral sex ffs. Any lady sitting seething becuase someone shared a cigarette probably needs help of some kind tbh and must be a joy to be in a relationship with

Not at all

I honestly don't think i'd even notice it, however the fact that you have may mean there are contributing factors? X

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No not at all