Would you be bothered if your DH shared a cigarette with another woman?

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As in, same cigarette passing it between them. Female colleague on a night out

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Nope. We're both antisocial smokers so may well share a fag with a kind smoker of any sex when pissed

Why are people saying 'yes I would, he's a non smoker' for goodness sake, I think we all know what the op means! Jeepers, sometimes I think people are purposely annoying!

Nope

No

I think it would depend if he ever shared cigarettes with anyone or if this was a once off. My hubby used to smoke and he never shared with male or female so if I saw him sharing one day I would think its out of character.

I would. I find a man smoking deeply sexy (I know, I know) and intimate and so I wouldn't be impressed.

I dunno. It's one of those things that could be very flirtatious if you wanted it to be. If I was already suspicious of the relationship I wouldn't like it. But on its own it doesn't mean anything.

As a stand alone thing, no. If you have concerns about him beyond this then I would suggest talking about it with him?

Hmm, I don’t know - I bet he wouldn’t do it with a male colleague nor her with a female colleague. It’s flirtatious, isn’t it?

We're not smokers but if we were this wouldn't bother me. It's hardly sharing saliva is it?

Yes because he doesn't smoke

But if he did smoke I wouldn't be bothered.

Smoking is for smelly losers, so there's that.

As for sharing: you obviously have insecurities you should probably be honest with yourself about.

Also, you have to remember that people who smoke are weak-willed addicts and will do anything to get their fix. If all that was on offer was a go on somebody else's then I'm not surprised he took it or vice versa.

Id be annoyed hed started smoking again and id think it was gross to share a cigarette as its a bit germy and there are so many illnesses going round

@BusterGonad

Why are people saying 'yes I would, he's a non smoker' for goodness sake

Where does it say he's a non smoker? Ive read back and can't see it.

Where does it say he's a non smoker? Ive read back and can't see it.

It doesn’t, it’s posters answering the question by being a smart arse.

When I was young and single there were times when I found it very sexy sharing a cigarette or joint with a man I fancied. But I’ve shared plenty with people I have no attraction to whatsoever! So I don’t think that it has to mean anything.

Not weird, just a mate harping out in a time of need. In the last week I have shared with my best friend (female), mother in law and best friend (male) and a general buddy (female). This was for various reasons. I wouldn't share with a complete stranger but friend or colleague that I actually like? No problem.

*helping

No.

Nope, course not. He’s done it with female and male colleagues during the workday when they’re stressed. I’d be very concerned if my OH had any opinion at all on me having a drag of a colleagues cigarette.

It’s flirtatious, isn’t it?

How?

I don't smoke and never have so maybe I'm missing the allure; but I really don't see how puffing from the same cigarette is at all sexy or flirtatious. It's not really on par with the Beauty and the Beast spaghetti....

I wouldn't be bothered by the act itself but like everything context is important.

Was it a cigarette or a joint?
I've rarely seen people sharing a cigarette, but I've seen plenty of joints being passed around amongst various numbers of people.
Wouldn't bother me anyway in either case.