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Flirting radar very rusty: help needed!

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Wellthisisunexpected · 23/12/2018 21:59

I'm recently separated after a long-term relationship, 2 kids. Very amicable, just grew apart (short version).

Over the last year I've struck up an unlikely friendship with someone who comes into my home regularly. He is doing a job for me and so there is obviously a power imbalance here. I'm under no illusions that I am a client and this may be skewing his behaviour and my perception .

We get on like a house on fire. We share loads of interests and he laughs at my crap jokes. He made me a Spotify playlist last week which made me come over all funny.

Im still not sure its not just my fervid and overactive imagination.

WtF do I do to flush him out for sure?!?! I don't want to make a tit of myself.

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showmeshoyu · 23/12/2018 22:12

I'd like to think that the "job" he does for you in your home with a power imbalance is boffing you vigorously as you make him wear a puppy suit. The entire thread is hilarious when you imagine this.

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Wellthisisunexpected · 23/12/2018 23:03

Oh yeah I'd go for that Shock. I'd boff him wearing anything or nothing to be honest.

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Wellthisisunexpected · 23/12/2018 23:13

He is single. I initially thought he was in a relationship but this is not the case....He corrected my assumption very discretely.

God, I fancy the pants off the poor man.

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showmeshoyu · 23/12/2018 23:23

He corrected you as to his singletivity? You know what you need to do. I'd suggest amaretto and orange for courage but save the puppy suit for second date.

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Wellthisisunexpected · 23/12/2018 23:38

Mmm yes he did. Not bluntly, but very clearly all the same.

Amaretto? I can't. I might puke teenage connotations We are both gin fans. I'll wheel out the Bombay sapphire and make sure the kids are with dad ... wish me luck he is shit hot

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Wellthisisunexpected · 23/12/2018 23:38

I'll save the puppy suit for later have yer been drinking pet?😂

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showmeshoyu · 23/12/2018 23:54

Grin do it and report back. Good luck. Grin

ImNotKitten · 23/12/2018 23:56

He sounds keen. Good luck and have fun Grin

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Wellthisisunexpected · 24/12/2018 00:08

I shall report back with progress.... I'm really nervous.
I've not tried to woo anyone for decades.
This one is special and I can't be added to play it cool.

Eeek. I'm gonna do it folks. Feel the fear and all that...

And thanks, ladies. Much appreciated hand-holding.

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Wellthisisunexpected · 24/12/2018 00:09

Can't be arsed, not can't be added. Gah.

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Investor567 · 24/12/2018 06:28

Gokd luck, hope everything goes well for you ;)

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Wellthisisunexpected · 24/12/2018 09:49

Thanks investor. Still slightly concerned I might be imagining stuff and about to make a fool of myself but I guess if I don't try I'll always wonder. I think there will have to be alcohol and an engineered invitation that could or could not be a date ;)

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Investor567 · 24/12/2018 17:12

Just remember youre still young so just live life whilst you can. No need to worry about making a fool out of yourself if theres a fun story for when you are older :)

NigelGresley · 24/12/2018 17:18

WtF do I do to flush him out for sure?!?
He’s not a plumber is he ? Grin

When is the big date?

LuckyLou7 · 24/12/2018 17:26

He's told you he's single.
He's made you a playlist.
He's virtually tattooed 'I fancy you' on his forehead!

Now it's your move. Light a Christmas candle and pour the Gin

Merry Christmas [fgin]

Thatsalovelycuppatea · 24/12/2018 20:19

He sounds like a keeper to me. Especially if he did a playlist for you.

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Wellthisisunexpected · 25/12/2018 00:15

Not a plumber 😂 . Has a very sexy skillset (to me). Technicaly complex, physical, artistic. At risk of falling into mumsnet mysterious hobby territory I shall say no more. I could watch him do his thing all dày. It is beautiful Grin.

Anyhow, I asked him if he'd like to come for a night out at somewhere unusual I have access to (job in heritage/arts). He said he would really like to (faints)....we made plans for mid Jan ... two weeks away

For sound reasons it cannot be sooner but agh the next two weeks. Lots of... exercise or something....

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Wellthisisunexpected · 25/12/2018 00:32

And thank you @LuckyLou7 and @Thatsalovelycuppatea

I've had a tricky relationship history so external opinion very welcome especially when it is of the go girl variety... :)

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SirVixofVixHall · 25/12/2018 00:40

Oooh. How exciting. Is he a thatcher ? Probably not, given the weather, but i cant think of anything else ..
Good luck op !

Vitalogy · 25/12/2018 00:43

A skilled man using his hands Wink fine thing to watch that is.

Good for you going for it. And good luck on your date although it doesn't sound like you'll need it.

SleepWarrior · 25/12/2018 00:49

I'm imagining an intricate floor to ceiling work of art in mosaic form in your bathroom!

Very exciting - good luck!

SirVixofVixHall · 25/12/2018 00:54

Topiary ? *hopeful

SirVixofVixHall · 25/12/2018 00:57

Read it to DH. He says, if he has made a spotify list , he clearly likes you.

SirVixofVixHall · 25/12/2018 00:58

I really want to know the skill now though.
Carpentry ?

SleepWarrior · 25/12/2018 00:59

Agreed. Bet he doesn't make spotify lists for his other clients does he?!

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