8 months of cheating and lies

[MerryFuuckingChristmas]

So I've just found out that my husband, father of my two toddlers, has been having sex with and seeing someone for at least 8 months. He's nearly 40. She's 22. I'm an idiot. There's been many a sign and I've believed all his crap.
I don't know what to do, I don't know how to do Christmas and I can't believe I let him persuade me I was paranoid and crazy.
That's all.

So sorry, You can do so much better op what a shit he is

I am terribly, terribly sorry.

When the 'festive' season is over, get some professional advice, please. You owe it to yourself.

Please do not sleep with him and I don't mean sharing a bed.

I'm so sorry for all you are going through. I've currently got the chump lady's Leave a Cheater Gain a Life book on the go and 100% recommend x

I'm so sorry you're going through this. My ex husband cheated when I was pregnant with ds2. I eventually forgave him. Roll on 7 years he met another younger woman and moved in with her. They are still together but only because I won't give him the time of day.

It's a horrible time to find out. I hope you can have a nice day with your mum and kids and start planning a future without him in it.

Keep posting here, you'll get so much great advice and support

Hope you are OK lovely, have a nice Christmas with your mum and little ones xxx

Kick him out, tonight, get your mum over and say he had to go his folks or something last minute. Enjoy it with your mum and your babies.

Then divorce the shit and let him play house with a 22-year old slapper.

Have the best Christmas you can with your mum and DC.

May 2019 be the year you lose 12 stone-ish of useless weight as you get shot of your despicable ex.

Haha, I actually weighed myself this morning and had lost 2 pounds and said basically the same thing... Today is officially the lightest I've been since twins were born. Every cloud!

I know you said you said that the age gap isn't an issue but to me that's fucking grim...He's old enough to be her dad.

In my mind he falls into the category of dirty old bastard - I'm practically the same age as him and the thought of sleeping with a 22 year old man??

The most sickening part by far though is the gaslighting, what a nasty piece of work. Just awful

The only inevitability in this situation is that if you stay in this marriage your esteem and mental health will be an absolute car crash.

Give yourself a chance of happiness and dump the trash in the bin where it belongs.

You sound like you're doing well. Keep what's right for YOU at the forefront of your mind xxx

*self esteem