Sleeping with new boy and tinder pops up

[Sillysausage12345]

Ergh...

Went for dinner with new guy... not had exclusive chat but we are sleeping together for a while and I’m pretty sure he respects and understands that I’m not the sort of girl to be dating other people at the same time.

Anyway, he was showing me something on his phone and a tinder “you have 5 new matches” comes up... immediately I was like kiosk keith, my shutter come down and the mood instantly Changed.

I’ve got issues, anxiety, depression, insecurities about not being wanted and it’s taken me a long time to even give this guy a chance and I’ve now found myself really liking him. (We’re talking months).

I asked him why he’s still got it, he said he hadn’t been on it for months, if that’s the case, why not delete it? I said if we are sleeping together then I don’t want to be in a position where he’s taking other girls out. I wouldn’t do that to him so surely I’m not being unreasonable to expect the same? Or maybe I am. He said o would just have to trust him that he’s not, and I believe he isn’t BUT just delete the app then the temptation is gone. 😤

When we were becoming more of something then I deleted it, out of respect to him more than anything.

Any thoughts??

I don’t think he’s doing anything wrong by dating other people until you’ve had the exclusivity chat.

Tippexy

Did you come here to give advice or jump on a choice of wording?

Perhaps you should just fuck off back to your miserable little existence

If I was dating and having sex with someone, I would assume we were exclusive. I really don't think it's ok to sleep with someone and date around, unless you have told the person involved and they are ok with it.

Maybe he is still on Tindr because he is getting a dramatic / game-playing vibe from you, and he is keeping his options open.

I think your message sounds sincere, but you might have to accept you've blown it with this one, and look at ways you can do it better next time.

Thanks everyone for replying, it’s really made me think about what I would like to happen and how I am going to address it. We’ve been in contact today and it all seems ok and the air has been cleared, we’re due to go out this week so I’ll speak properly to him then, I need to think about what I’m going to say. He’s off backpacking for a few weeks over xmas so won’t see each other until he gets back.

I know I would much rather be somewhere hot right now so I’m a tad jealous!

He’s going as a single man. Or in his head he is.

I think you know you deserve better. I wish you all the best