What am I playing it🙊

[Completlywingingit]

Girls! I need your help🙈

I don’t know where to start really I feel like a giddy school girl.

So for years, yearrrrs. I go to the same bar occasionally. (I don’t really go out that much) sometimes after work we’d call in or it’s my fav place to go with my best girl. It’s nice, it’s familiar. It’s not full of stinky students and we love it.

Anyway. The whole time I’ve went to this bar there’s this one doorman. (I know, a big beast of a man🙄, why wouldn’t I be attracted)

So yeah, for years.. he will make a point of coming over to me and chatting. I’m obviously too busy thinking about ripping his stupid clothes off to remember. It’s never really anything if substance but he will seek me out and we will chat. If we’re not chatting we’re looking at eachother. There’s an attraction. It’s obvious. I’m a grown woman and his hand gently brushed against my ass and I almost melted all over the place.

There’s a need to be close to him all the time. I purposely won’t let myself go there every time there’s an outting because its obviously crazy girl material.

He’s a little bit older than me🙊 or a lot. I really don’t care. This has been going on for years now. I’ve seen how he only speaks to other girls when they speak to him. I’m far too scared to make a move.

Have you ever been in a similar situation?

Tell me to grow up and get a grip I need distraction

10 years and nothing? He'd have made a move surely?

Well I'm 50.
I have girlfriends.
I love my girls.
We have girls night out.
We have girlie nights in.
I can't imagine saying, 'are we going for a womans night out then?' And I hate the word 'ladies'
Just sounds odd to me.

Anyway OP.... take some action.
Flippin' 'eck.
10 years!!!!!
He either will or he won't.
You wont' know until you've asked though.
It's Christmas. Take that leap!!!

This is the weirdest thread I've read this morning

Give him an Xmas card and your number

Me too, @winterspice. Me too.

Some of you posters have serious issues! Just because she hasn’t come on here posting about her ‘DP’ who might’ve cheated, half of you are being a bunch of sarcy idiots
There’s more to mumsnet than asking how to spy on your suspicious husband!
If you have no interest in the thread... click the back button. If the OP writing ‘my best girl’ offends you then you have serious problems with yourself

OP.. ask him out or give him your number. He might be married or he could be single. Nobody knows yet apart from him. Don’t let mumsnet and these pointless posters make you think every man is married and only wants you for a quick shag.

Well come on, if he was that interested would he have hung around for 10 years?

If he’s been vaguely flirting for years but never made a move he’s either married or not really interested.

Christ on a bike just ask him out already. Stop dithering about. 🙄

I think you should ask. Even if he says no. Which he might. However if he does say no, then you would have to think and see why he would behave like he has towards you... is he just a game player ?

I think you should ask him out. When are you next there ?

After you’ve had a natter with him next time, why on you say something along the lonesome if ‘greet Talking to you, so you fancy grabbing a cuppa Saturday afternoon, see you in Costa about 5?’ If he doesn’t want to he’ll say ‘thanks but no thanks, if he wants to, but can’t make it, he should suggest another time. Either way, even if he tells you he’s married or gay or simply doesn’t want to, just say ‘ok hun, nice to see you, no doubt I’ll see you next time I’m in her with the girls’, smile ans leave. Nothing ventured

The rudeness and mean spirits on this thread! Pfffft. Op , don't hold off anymore, arrange to pop in over the Christmas and ask him straight out if he fancies meeting up, if he has a partner then its not your fault he was giving you the vibes or never mentioned them. I know if I have men chatting me up and I don't want to come across as rude , I will always say, Oh my hubbie loves that team, or something along the lines, so then they know I am not interested but I am also not rude.

I hope you have a lovely Christmas, and who knows you could be on here in the new year telling us all the goss

Why is everyone so rude on here? Referring to women, particularly your best group of "womenfriends"(?), as girls is fairly common. Having a crush for a long time and having it make you feel ditzy and nervous and anxious to make a move is also common.

Lotta sticks up asses L0ndon

We all remember what those ‘feels’ are like

Ask him to go for a drink 'elsewhere'. Then see what happens

Lol doormen are like this with me as well. And most other women 😂 I thought this was common knowledge

Hi folks

Can we move on now? If we continue having to delete personal attacks, it will need to come down.

🤷🏻‍♀️ Where was this when the op was being taken apart because of her use of words

I’ve noticed it happening a lot recently to many users and it’s sad that this is how MN is going.