What am I playing it🙊

[Completlywingingit]

Girls! I need your help🙈

I don’t know where to start really I feel like a giddy school girl.

So for years, yearrrrs. I go to the same bar occasionally. (I don’t really go out that much) sometimes after work we’d call in or it’s my fav place to go with my best girl. It’s nice, it’s familiar. It’s not full of stinky students and we love it.

Anyway. The whole time I’ve went to this bar there’s this one doorman. (I know, a big beast of a man🙄, why wouldn’t I be attracted)

So yeah, for years.. he will make a point of coming over to me and chatting. I’m obviously too busy thinking about ripping his stupid clothes off to remember. It’s never really anything if substance but he will seek me out and we will chat. If we’re not chatting we’re looking at eachother. There’s an attraction. It’s obvious. I’m a grown woman and his hand gently brushed against my ass and I almost melted all over the place.

There’s a need to be close to him all the time. I purposely won’t let myself go there every time there’s an outting because its obviously crazy girl material.

He’s a little bit older than me🙊 or a lot. I really don’t care. This has been going on for years now. I’ve seen how he only speaks to other girls when they speak to him. I’m far too scared to make a move.

Have you ever been in a similar situation?

Tell me to grow up and get a grip I need distraction

Well we know each others lives. Like his other job and mine. What we think about certain people. Food we like. Tv. Stupid little running jokes blah blah.

I’m not sure it’s purely a sexual connection because we both always seem to want to know more but yeah, the naked factor plays a big part.

He’s completely the opposite of someone I would usually go for. It may be a familiar thing for me. I have my own crazy little world and when I see him everything just stops for a bit. Who knows

@Completlywingingit slip him your number on a piece of paper on your way out next time, and see if he texts you. Like you said what's the worst that can happen you avoid him when you go there mum, no big deal, if you don't try you will never know.

I wanted to rip my DH clothes of every time I saw him, we was 'friends' for 5 years before I chased after him 😂 now we have a beautiful DD.

@Completlywingingit mum was supposed to say maybe 😂

😂 mum

I know I need to stop being a little bitch about it. I don’t think I have the balls haha. I have no problem with men. I just want this one.

Good for you! Look at you now ☺️

Off you pop

Today 05:34 AnotherRoadsideAttraction

From your posts it seems like perhaps as a woman you're new to relationships with men? You might need to make it obvious to the doorman that you're available and interested.

If he was interested, he would have asked you out by now. Men are not that complicated.

I am guessing he is in an relationship but enjoys this innocent flirtation with you.

Not being rude?
'Stinky students' may disagree.

Definitely in a relationship. Probably married with a handful of kids. A man who enjoys a bit of harmless flirting every now and then but is essentially disinterested in anything more.

I'm going to go against the grain and say "you know that bit of you that is anxious, doesn't want it to go further and always shuts him down? Listen to that".

You are sexually attracted to him. Because society tells women that lust is shallow and undignified, you want to reframe this lust as "a connection" and "something I've never felt with anyone else". But it sounds like it is a powerful sexual attraction, not a great love.

In ten years, nothing had ever happened between you. This is because he would probably have sex with you if you offered, but he has no interest in asking you for coffee, dinner, a movie or any of the other things people do when they want to date. He sees a lot of women every night - drunk women out for a good time - and he can probably get as much casual sex as he wants. And I suspect that's all he is interested in offering you. It's highly unlikely that he has had a crush on you for ten years but is far too shy to ask you out.

So sleep with him or don't sleep with him. But don't dress it up to yourself as this grand passion.

U ok hun?

I feel like I'm reading an article form Just 17 magazine all over again. What a strange way to talk OP

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He would have asked you out by now if he single surely?

Good luck, OP. Sorry people were being snobby and rude and snobby about your apparent levels of maturity. Not sure who made them Boss.

Y'know what OP. Life is short. Ask him out.

I second the piece of paper with ur number on it....stick it in his pocket. ..Good luck OP....and I don't think ur childish or immature. Personally its nice to read a thread where someones giddy with 'the feels' and not moaning about their 'DP' and talking about LTB. Some posters should stfu and stop trying to pisd on the OPs chips

Chat to him the next time you're the and find out if he's single. If he is then ask him out and get it over and done with?

Hmm. This reads so much like a man writing what he thinks a "girl" would write.

I can see the OP's dilemma. Sure she could go for it but what if he is married? No biggie - it would mean that he can reject advances and OP doesn't get hurt. What if he is married yet doesn't reject advances - worse case scenario.

What if he knocks the OP back or worse, has ONS with OP and then knocks her back? That would be really shit because the OP likes him and this is her main place to socialise.

10 years? Yeah i don't think he wants anything with you. As pps said, he probably would be game for NSA shag though....

And it's not girls or men. it's men and women, boys and girls. HTH xoxo

For god's sake....there are two steps here, first find out if he is single, 2nd start to move things forward by going there yourself. Whats he going to do ?

10 years? Probably married and flirts with lots of people in the bar.