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footie season - he goes to football I eat more chocolate AHHHHH!

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Hi · 03/08/2002 15:37

I hate it the football season is here again after a week with the children I get even less time to do the housework/grab 5 mins for myself. He gets to go watch the match let off steam, still do something he enjoys and I must just accept it. I get soooo moody and I can't help it I try to grab the mornings of footie Saturdays to myself to just do house things so that the house being an absolute tip doesn't get me down as well (ok not always sometimes I just stay upstairs and take ages to get round to getting dressed) Yes I know he was a footie fan before I married him but must it leave me and the children to have Oh I don't know but it's not fair... yes I know I sound like my darling children but what can I do it's the weekend I hate going out on my own and respect other people/friends "weekend is family time" routine why must he always be able to go to footie when it's a home game or if it's an away game and it means we can go to family for the weekend it suddenly becomes a great time to visit them never mind the children and school/whatever. Sorry just need to rant and rave I'm so angry about it but he doesn't care. He's a good dh/df compared to others but I don't want to compare. Why must I eat chocolate - because it's a short comfort and I can't help it it's all I can do. HELP okay no-one need reply just need to get it off my chest... well trying to. Anyone else out there as pathetic as me must dash ds calls.

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ionesmum · 03/08/2002 16:28

As a cricket widow you have my sympathy. The best thing IME is to do things that you enjoy with your children; there are lots of things you can do at home. Plan as many treats as you can and it does get better. But also have an agreement that Sundays are for your children to spend time with their mum AND dad as a family.

SoupDragon · 03/08/2002 16:54

My DH is a footy fan, a cricket fan, a rugby fan, a golf fan... he'll watch ANYTHING. Add to that the fact that he joined a golf club 1 month after the birth of DS2 and now plays EVERY Saturday morning and one weekday evening a month, played 3 times on a 5 day break recently... It really annoys me because, as a SAHM, it seems I never get a break.

Grrrr! Rant over!

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Hi · 03/08/2002 19:15

Soupdragon I feel a little bit better ie not on my own and that someone else out there knows how it feels.

ionesmum I agree with you totally but as a SAHM I need a break and for various reasons (weak mum being one though through tiredness) I never get the breaks and he doesn't think anything of it other than they grow so quickly your time will come!

Ineed a break too I know he has a hectic time at work but he does get a break on the train to read a novel which is more than I do! Plus he gets other breaks I don't. Also sometimes he goes to footie in the week when there is a home game or a friendly match.

Anyway rant over thanks for your responses. He came home with chips to add to the chocs I'd already demolished! fatter and fatter!

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SoupDragon · 03/08/2002 20:52

Yes, the bit that annoys me is that it's Saturday morning so I have to "work" at the weekend before I get a chance of a break. DH just doesn't get it no matter how hard I try to explain it to him. Much as I love my 2 boys, it would be nice to have a break from being climbed on, whinged at, pawed by mucky little hands, talked at incessantly...

Sigh.

jasper · 03/08/2002 21:16

I HATE FOOTBALL
In fact I hate all sport onTV, all that roaring and shouting.
Last Christmas when dh asked what I would like I asked for a month with no sport on telly in our house but I didn't get it.

threeangels · 03/08/2002 22:19

I feel at ease with the sports issue. May sound weird but my dh hates all sports on tv. Has gone to a couple basketball games just to see Michael Jordan but thats about it.

ionesmum · 04/08/2002 14:55

SoupDragon, poor you! HI, instead of doing the housework on a Saturday morning, why not have a lie-in? Or on Sunday? I'm a SAHM too so I know something of what it's like, dh plays cricket every Saturday and most Sundays from April to the end of September, leaving at lunch time and coming home at last orders. That's without the endless meetings, net practice, pitch preparation etc. Dh does work from home some days but it's not the same. I love watching sport on T.V. but now watch that on my own, it's not the same as sharing it with someone. Goodness, that sounds wet!

I hate the fact that I don't have time to read either. Fortunately my sanity has been saved by audio books, Amazon have a good selection or you can borrow them from the library.

BTW dh says that I 'must' do a cricket tea next year as my contribution to the club. As I already think I contribute enough by giving them dh for most of the year, I told him to bog off.

SoupDragon · 04/08/2002 15:09

On the plus side, it's better than when he played football every Saturday afternoon from lunchtime to chucking out time...

Willow2 · 04/08/2002 15:17

Sorry - but I can't wait for the season to start! Roll on dropping my ds at his nan's and then heading up to Highbury with my dh, father-in-law, and nephew.

Rhiannon · 04/08/2002 15:59

Mine goes to every Arsenal home game. He even goes abroad to watch them. I have two good friends whose husbands also go to watch Arsenal and Chelsea so we tend to get together when they're playing.

Why not take the kids to the local shopping centre and put them in the creche for a couple of hours and have some time to yourself in the shops?!

We are unable to organise any event without checking the fixture list first and I must admit that makes me sick that his precious Arsenal is more important than everything else. There rant over too. R

Khara · 05/08/2002 22:37

I can't wait for the footy season. My dh hates football (and, indeed, any sport), but every other Saturday I get to dump both ds on him, while I swan off with my dad to the match. As a sahm it saves my sanity!

Azzie · 06/08/2002 09:16

I have always hated sport (other than outdoor pursuits such as climbing or caving) because when I was a kid my family were sport mad - football all winter and cricket all summer, it dominated life totally and (or so it seemed to me) they talked about nothing else. I married a man who isn't really interested in sport at all (again, his interests are of the caving/climbing/hillwalking/cycling sort). Now I have a ds who is starting to be sport mad, and as the parent with the most knowledge about these things (however unwillingly acquired) it looks like I'm going to be the one who takes ds to matches etc. Guess I'd better start trying to change my bad attitude . (I hate to admit it but I did quite enjoy watching the World Cup ... not sure I can get worked up about cricket, though...).

Bozza · 06/08/2002 12:35

Can understand your feelings Hi as my DH is a golfer. This w/e though I insisted he stay at home with DS Sat morning while I went shopping (ie proper shops not supermarket).

It worked well. I remembered everything I needed, the shops were quiet (early), I could try things on etc. DH and DS went to the swings, played together etc. Then when DH disappeared DS had a nap and then I took him out to some gardens to feed the duck and for a treat at the cafe. DS loves to sit in a high chair sharing my cake and flirting with old ladies!

This helped deal with my resentment. Then Sunday was family day.

SimonHoward · 06/08/2002 12:49

Ladies, you have my sympathy.

I was brought up in a household that didn't like watching sports and when DW and I met she was over the moon that I didn't sit there and spend hours at a time watching it.

Luckily DW doesn't mind the hobbies that I do have and is fine with me disappearing to my workshop for hours at a time.

Azzie · 06/08/2002 12:50

Ah, but 'workshop' suggests that your hobbies might have a useful outcome - or is it Airfix models or something?

SoupDragon · 06/08/2002 13:09

Rhiannon : because my local centre doesn't have a creche! Also DS2 is only 17 months old and a lot of shopping centre creche's don't take them that young.

I don't have a problem with DHs sport and golf playing addiction but (adopts pathetic plaintive voice) does it have to be EVERY Saturday morning?? (BTW, the answer is, apparently, yes. sigh)

Willow2 · 06/08/2002 13:41

Khara - which team?

jodee · 06/08/2002 15:19

I've already been to 2 pre-season friendlies - bring it on!!

bundle · 06/08/2002 15:21

SimonHoward, so what do you do in your workshop then?

Tillysmummy · 06/08/2002 15:41

my dh is cricket, golf and, football and practically every other sport mad so I never get any bloody respite !

SimonHoward · 06/08/2002 19:13

Azzie

I will be taking the 5th amendment on this and all other questions concerning my workshop.

Lets just say though that almost all power tools are stored in the loft of the house not the shed.

SimonHoward · 06/08/2002 19:15

Bundle

I work on all sorts of projects in my workshop.

Some of them even get finished.

jodee · 06/08/2002 20:28

Hmmm, why does 'mad scientist' spring to mind ...

SoupDragon · 06/08/2002 21:54

'mad scientist' or 'secret beer store'

Bozza · 06/08/2002 22:03

Hmmm why the secrecy SH? Would us mumsnetters not approve?

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